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Miss Independent

CagedBird

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Well I gave up on getting help from all of these people who are supposed to so called help (Vocational Rehabilitation). I did a vocational assessment and I pretty much have the idea that my counselor is not going to help me at all. After she told me I would need an address before she could transfer my case or a job offer before they could help me move, I went out and tried to make it happen. I got approved for a 1 bedroom apartment, found out they have a special transportation van that takes disabled people door to door where they need to go, and I even got an interview for a law firm that helps with SSDI, employment discrimination, personal injury, etc. My counselor actually got mad at me and told me I was moving too fast. I got so fed up with her. She would not even sign the paper I needed just verifying I have a disability so I could turn in my application to get special transportation services. Luckily, my neurologist's nurse signed it for me and I sent it off. I just really want my life to change for the better. I gave up on life so much but ever since I been taking the anti-depressant I just want to do everything I can to change my situation. I think I got the job. I will be moving in 2 weeks and I am registered for all of the classes I need for my paralegal program. I am excited about living on my own. I know it will be hard. My dad is worried about me getting around the big city by myself, being 3 hours away from home, and living by myself. I have to admit I am kind of nervous/anxious. What if I need help opening something or what if I can't reach something? Am I really ready to be living by myself, paying all of my own bills, and cooking all of my own meals? I wish I could be doing all of this as an able bodied person but I think I am up for the challenge. I have always got the most joy and felt the most normal when I was doing things that made me feel independent. I really believe living on my own taking care of myself and being in the big city where I dont have to worry about driving will be a good change for me. I think it will help my confidence and just being away from all the negativity, drama, and depression in my family will give me a fresh start. Wish me luck. I will keep you guys posted

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You got my wish of luck, prayer and that you'll be OK long as you believe in yourself! I feel that same but I'm so glad to have the wife I got now because this is my fourth try at married life! I prayed to God to send me someone I can cherish and He granted me this amazing woman! She is over half my total happiness because I truly hate to be alone anymore!

 

My condition I can handle and deal with it but I need someone to love me like the Earth Angel I got now! I wish you the best and try hard to make this move work for you!

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KATRINA,

YOU GO GIRL! YOU'VE GOTTEN THIS FAR AND HAVE OVERCOME A LOT OF ODDS, INDEPENDENCE IS A GREAT GOAL AND I THINK YOU ARE UP FOR THE CHALLENGE. BESIDES YOU'RE A SURVIVOR. NEVER GIVE UP!

- WILL

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Katrina :

 

best of luck, I know you will be able to do it, everthing can be done with one hand & positive attitude. BTW you will learn way to compensate for your disability.

 

BTW buy one touch can opener (it comes real handy to do things one handedly)

also buy cutting board with vice & nails for your chopping vegetables needs.

 

you will realise more you do things single handedly easier it becomes & becomes your new normal.

 

Asha

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I am proud of you for being so independent. A lot of completely healthy adults should take lessons from you! When you move to your new place just remember that it is your house/apartment and set it up to be efficient for you. When you store things, or if someone is helping you, make sure things are in your range of reach. Keep things simple until you get the hang of being on your own. I am not sure what your mobility is like but if you have to use a walker or wheelchair keep the furninture to a minimum. Makes getting around the house much easier and safer if you tend to fall or stumble. All of our furniture is against the walls around the room to give mike full access to most everthing from his chair without having to manuver around obsticles. You will be fine, I have all the confidence in in you. Good luck at your new job and keep us up to date on how it is going. Oh by the way there are all kinds of microwave vegetables and foods you can make until you get completely secure in doing all the cooking by yourself! LOL I know because I am not a the best cook in the world and when mike doesnt want to eat I have some onhand for myself just so I dont have to cook for 1. Chin up and be proud of yourself!

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Katrina

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Go for it, you can do this, I believe you will do just fine. I have a friend who had a brainstem stroke at 34, had to relearn everything, was determined to live on her own and now she does. So I know you can do it.

 

After the stroke I was needy and dependent and now I just want to do my own thing. So I know that’s a sign of me getting better and ready to make a move myself.

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