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Most of you know Bruce and I were planning to be married on June 22, 2009. We picked up our wedding rings on March 22 at 11 am and Bruce stroked that night. Sometime during the next three weeks my dress arrived. I remember Mary Beth calling me to ask me what to do. She hung it in my closet. Yesterday, I opened it for the first time in almost 3 1/2 years.
Bruce and I are to be married on December 8th, 2012. It is time. Cognitively, Bruce is back 99%. He still has trouble finding his words and physically needs a lot more work. But I think I have finally found peace and acceptance in our lives.
We have been together 27 years this December 30. We did POAs and Medical Advocates back in 1986 when we became responsible for Brittany. Both of us went through very difficult divorces and took our relationship slow and easy. When Britt came into the picture, she had to come first. Once she was in high school, I went to Nursing School and Bruce entered his own business. After that my Mom came to live with us in her final months.
So life went on, we set and stuck to our priorities. Obviously the wedding was put on hold, due to the stroke and in the past three years, focus was on stroke recovery and managing a new life, one we never considered. And we have reached a spot where we both know it is time.
So we went back to the original plan. The dress fits perfect. My best friend, who is standing up for me, just finished our invitations tonight and they are perfect. Bruce's Godson will be standing up for him, as originally planned. The Justice of the Peace is a friend of Bruce's. They were in writing class together and continued that after the class was done. If any of you can remember way back, Lynn was the one who picked up all the shoes Bruce had ordered. She reminded me of that tonight. Said she did not want to hear that he did not have shoes to wear - LOL.
Bruce finished up the vows tonight and I sent them to Lynn. He is working now on the menu for the day. It will be a small, intimate reception. Originally we had not planned anything, but things have changed and we have so many who have been so good to us and concerned. It is time to throw a party. Bruce will crash early, everyone knows that, so we are doing an early afternoon and Mary Beth and family will spend the night. Niece Melissa's friend has offered to do the pictures. She has quite an eye and we are so pleased she offered. Other friends are gifting us a wedding cake. I had taken out my parent's cake topper. They have collected dust on a shelf, but today came out, were spiffed up and are off to their new responsibility. Something old!
In the meantime, life goes on. Bruce was discharged from the Vascular Surgeon yesterday. The stent has been working wonderfully for three years and Vascular advises that unless PCP has concern, Bruce no longer has to have ultrasounds every six months. Bruce's PCP of 35+ years retires December 1. We have set up a new PCP closer to home and we picked up Bruce's medical records today. He is going through them. Strange when someone hands you an envelope of "your life." Fall clean up is this week, so I am pulling brush to the curb every day. Weather is perfect: low 50s, sunny and it clears my head. Juggling all this has been a challenge but no different than three years ago and now I have honed the skills - LOL. There are friends here that have assured me that they can get the pix on site.
So for now, that is the news. Soon to be Debbie Sparks. or Ethyl Sparks as Bruce would have it . Debbie
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