You are right Asha and for the most part we confuse failure all the time. We learn from our mistakes. I learned long ago to watch my left foot where I'm putting it so I don't trip or fall and I haven't fallen in years now.

If you are not looking at your foot it feels like you are moving it but you are not your muscles didn't move it but the brain tells you it did. You will fall!

I have spent a good deal of my life worrying about those things I had done badly, missed out, overlooked and screwed up. It is only on this side of 60 I have been able to look back and see them as human mistakes, part of being an outgoing person who probably has tried to fit too much into her life. So I have learned to forgive myself and others. I guess this is the root of love - forgiveness. Thank you Asha for bringing us another wise blog.

Asha: my mission statement (and both of my sisters') "I am my Mother's daughter, I am afraid of nothing!" That being said, I have expertise in many areas but a master of none. But that can not be said of Caregiver - there is no dabbling and then moving on. And lately I have just been feeling that I will never get the hang of this. After four years, it still seems like one step forward and two back and all I do is fail.

If Bruce is OK, the house is a mess or I bounced a check, something didn't get paid on time or we are out of milk. And I have great help here.

But then I look to what I have learned, experienced. Where our lives are right now. I don't look too far ahead because I already know there is some sort of roadblock there, but if I can just get through one day, know what remote works what! LOL

I just pray, at the end of this journey, I can say we were happy. Debbie

Debbie :

I know the feeling. If I try to look too far ahead or have expectations of my efforts, I always face disappointments. So learnt hard way that just do my karma according to my dharma & don't be attached to any results, then I am able to enjoy my life to fullest. so for me I just flow with my life flow & do my duties which is whatever required of me as mother, wife or for myself on that day. then there is no stress since I know I did my best for that day rest is in god's hands & whatever will be will be is my motto & I believe god is taking care of me since I am doing my job with right intentions behind it.

Asha