Nancy,

Ask dan's doc if it's okay for him to take "Cystex". It's an over-the-counter med for UTI's. I have chronic UTI's and it is the only one I have found that can be taken routinely to prevent UTI's from developing. It doesn't change the color of urine, so no staining everything orange and it works great. Ask first though because of all his conditions and medications.

Nancy, I know moving from house to house and place to place is very hard to do as I had to do in the military every few years. But perhaps you finding another condo or a place to live might be better on your nerves having Dan to care for in the long haul and not lose your mind dealing with the kinds of neighbors you got now.

I couldn't take it what they do and say to you almost daily especially where you park your car on the property. Sorry Dan is not feeling too well but you got it under control no doubt.

Nancy, sorry to hear that Dan is fighting yet another uti. I know how you feel about not getting to spend time with family as Mike is becoming more and more withdrawn and even when we do go visit we don't stay long enough to really get quality time in with my family. 2 hours is about his tolerance level for anyone being around except me. Guess it could be worse he could have NO tolerance for them. As for you disrespectful neighbors I would have long ago told them where they could shove it as I am sure you have a couple of them ! Hope things get better for you soon! (((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) to you!

Nancy: so sorry about Dan's cold and UTI. Just one more thing. There is always the loneliness, but isolation added in is worse.

I don't know how your weather is, but if possible bundle him up and get him out on the patio. Dan's recovery is the focus right now.

Honey, these issues are not going away. Your home has to be your haven, your safe place. Can you imagine Bruce without his Kira? We don't do much with neighbors, but they are always there, supportive, anxious to help out. All of that counts - even if you never have to draw on it. Neighbor left for five weeks vacation last week. Left her garage door and side garage door open. When I went over to check as I offered to do, her back door was open! "S" happens. She'll check in at some point, but can take to the bank that I have her back, as she mine.

You'll figure this out. Just no quick decisions while Dan is ailing. You are under too much stress to decide any major changes right now. Try to get Dan out on the patio for a bit, walk the puppy and get some off time yourself and then regroup. My money is always on you. Debbie

my neibors have proven they wont close a door ( that day the dogs got the screen open ?).... oh well , i am better than this and not usually this thinned skinned.... i will and everyone remind me - try to leave judgement to god... i am WITH sin , so i need to throw down my rocks myself.... crap -- i dont want to... but i will..... love you guys....

Was this place advertised as a handicapped condo? If so, tell them it is a handicapped condo, and guess what, a handicapped person lives there - so this is what life is like when one is handicapped. I hate that you are having a stinky time there with snooty neighbors.