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ksmith

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Well I walked in to my therapist office with my mother to meet with my husband.. Only to find out he has already contacted a lawyer and is pursuing a divorce. I knew it could happen but never to us. I have a major problem with my memory that I have very limited long term and shorter short term. I have always told him I feel out of place and I'm trying to fill someone else's shoes as a wife and mother. He has been patient with me but the over whelming of it all is to much. Our arguing, mainly I want intimacy and that is one thing he can't do. I'm pretty sure it has to do with what happened before the stroke. I don't remember but he does and for me to expect him to forget would be asking a lot. He will always remember but you have to forgive and he can't do that.. But I must say he has been supportive with me since the stroke. I'm just shocked. Many people I have talked to get a divorce after a life changing experience. sucks

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Iam so sorry to read that your marriage is coming to an end. Having a stroke is a life ending experience, and pushes your relationship to the edge. It does sucks, but be strong. Remember you have many friends here who care for you, and are here to offer you a shoulder to cry on. You and your husband are in my prayer.

 

Yvonne

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Well, it's a long story with me so I can only imagine your feelings at this time so I'll just say "This is not the end of your life and you can live with the results."

 

I'm in my 4th and final marriage now for the last 15 happy years! I been married 53 years and have taken the bitter with the sweet!

 

Hey life goes on day by day stroke or not and you got my blessings in finding a soul mate one day you can love any time all the times you desire!

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Kelli, this is tragic but it is common here too that people who can't cope emotionally with their partner having a stroke in the end finish the marriage and move on. It is not how it should be, it is not what we want but it is how it is.

 

Wish I could be there to give you a big (((HUG))) in person.

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Kelly :

 

I am so saddened to read this news, but you know what, who knows God's plan for your life, just be patient, something better wil come out of this seemingly tragic event. who knows you might meet your soul mate with whom you can enjoy all abundance of life. we are always here if you want to talk

 

hugs,

Asha

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Kelly: I am so sorry. Know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care and yes, as Asha advises, we are all here. Debbie

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I could be saddened .. I am but he was a great father, caregiver. I'm thankful to have had him after my stroke. This stroke wiped out a lot of my memories, I said to him I don't feel like I fit in. I was thrown into marriage and mother.. I felt like my children were my step children . But we are going to be there for each other. No hard feelings. Stroke changed me. As I said before, I was told I had an affair before my stroke.. the fact he stayed with my for 5 years after my stroke, I couldn't be more blessed.

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It is a very strange time for you. It is possible your marriage was hitting the bricks already, and the only reason he stayed the 5 years was BECAUSE of the stroke. You were truly blessed to have that. Since you didn't feel like you fit in, due to lack of memories, perhaps now you will have a chance to just find out who you are now, and come to peace with it all. I wish you the best in this new journey your life is taking. Change is very difficult and scary, fortunately, you have back-up. God bless you.

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I'm sorry you found out so rudely; he should have told you in private what he was doing and why. What has happened to "till death do we part"?

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well sometimes people grow in different ways. As Sandy said, I was blessed to have him in my life for those 5 years. I'm not bitter and neither is he. We're better friend now. I say that because after the stroke, I like I was trying to fill someone else's shoes. I felt as if I didn't really know him.. Now I can with a happy heart :)

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what has happened to you is very terrible kelli but I sense that you are moving on and can forgive him for what he is doing to you. and the realization that he himself probably doesn't feel that he has any choice.

the idea of forgiveness I find in the actions of nelson mandella who realized that being angry at - not forgiving- his tormentors was bringing a burden to himself that would bring harm to himself.

you are doing very well kelli!

 

david

 

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what has happened to you is very terrible kelli but I sense that you are moving on and can forgive him for what he is doing to you. and the realization that he himself probably doesn't feel that he has any choice.the idea of forgiveness I find in the actions of nelson mandella who realized that being angry at - not forgiving- his tormentors was bringing a burden to himself that would bring harm to himself.you are doing very well kelli!david

most definitely xxoo

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