I find that bars are where you see people as they really are! All inhibitions, good or bad, disappear. Not that I hung out much drinking (no more than necessary haha , in the food business you don't want to be too stand-offish), but with my job and where I was (very Irish) I did get a feeling of brutal honesty. And I enjoyed it, to tell the truth; here in NY everyone is trying to pull something every minute, as a matter of fact right this minute I have someone from a lock company changing all the locks on all five doors. Ray was always good at protecting us, but I feel so helpless now sometimes

The jobs, yeah. Don't think I'm going to take $9 or $10 an hour (minimum wage here). There is so much I can do on my own with a lot less aggravation. But then there is also Ray. The neverending demands and guilt. Just the way it is. Trying to deal with it psychologically lately, not doing great but with a few crutches I'm getting by for now. Anyway momentarily we will soon have security access keys, I did not like the way the newest aide acted, reminded me of 1) the first one who had his wife and son over and couldn't stop talking about how nice our house was, and 2) Pat with her holy roller spiel yet Ray's bracelet disappeared on her watch. This new lady is a combo of it all and more. I had a very bad night and do NOT want to go through another like that. Woke up at 3AM in full panic attack. At least I feel like I'm being proactive, I am also going to set up the spycam by the staircase finally just in case.

Nancy: our Dietician is retiring in June. She works in my office and we have been together for over 15 years - my age basically and same ethics. We get an hour together twice a week - I don't have to take the BR break - Erma is at my house.

My dream job: the Personal care/batteries area of our S&S is never marked properly. You know how I shop. That marking is up to the unit manager and obviously he/she could care less. I will come in at 10pm. Stock and mark all your merchandise in these areas. I don't want to talk to anyone and I don't do customer service. I will be on time and you can trust the section will be in tip-top order. I will work part time. I will need to take my breaks off the premises - Bruce checks - but I will surely make up any time I miss.

Dietician says I will have to lift boxes. That is OK. I can do up to 50lbs (cat litter - LOL). And if you are having a great sale, you can call me to come in and restock during the week.

That is just an example, honey. That is what you and I bring to the plate and that is how we sell ourselves.

I can't help you with the Dan issues. What works for Bruce and I, won't necessarily work for you. But I do see, from your own description, is that Dan seems to make a knee-jerk reaction (I am sure it is a control issue) and then, given time to reconsider (April eating) will change his mind. I know he loves a good meal. So start an hour before dinner (just do one meal to start), let him refuse and pout. Come serving time, just maybe he will agree to join you at the table. Just a thought. Go easy. Debbie

What Debbie is writing about here we can merchandising. Merchandising you can do in your own hours as long as you meet deadlines. Usually you work either for an agency or for a manufacturer with multiple products in a supermarket. I did think about that early in my time at home with Ray but he couldn't be left at all because of his balance issues. In today's world I could have got a telecommuting job at home or run a business online from home...who knows?

Good luck with finding a job that fits in with your lifestyle. I think there is something out there for you if you have the patience to find it.

Sue.

I am right now signed up with a big merchandising/demo company, they do everything from supermarkets to Target to liquor stores. $15 to $20 hour. I did demos for a dog food company for seven years right up til Ray had the stroke. It was easy money. You do have to account for your time, and often have to call in from the store's phone when you arrive and leave with your 'figures". They do keep an eye on you. Supervisors will pop in for surprise visits. And you WILL have to interact with the store employees and managers on some level. But I loved it, so different from my regular job.

Then I realized it wasn't going to be feasible. Too many chances for emergencies etc. I used to be the most dependable employee but not anymore.

Nancy :

why not try something online work from home. I would assume all business owners will want dependable employee, hope you find something

Asha

I have tried to find something online to do myself to no avail! If you come across something like that Nancy let me know! Or if anyone else knows of something let me know. Sure would like to have a little more income.

I have seen i believe it is american greeting cards -- that look for people to go to stores and sort the cards --- the hours are flexible and they seem to have tons of "openings" since it is only a few hours a couple days a week --- it is a legit job as it was linked through the ND job service and it showed lots of areas of the country with openings -- i did send a link to colleen as i noticed her area was one of the places listed… maybe colleen can link that over to you or … face book me you email - and i will see if i can get it to you..

cindy -- i face booked you the info -- but then thought hey there are others ----- go to american greetings employment - make sure you have the actual corporation page -- than click on merchandiser employment and it shows you all the areas in the country and what they will pay… it is only a few hours a day a couple days a week - you go in straighten out the greeting cards - pull them - put new ones out set up displays etc…. i even knew a gal here in just who used to do -- she pretty much set her own hours based on the deadlines and needs...

i kinda wanted to add this to my entry - and didn't want to start a new blog narrative…. the other day dan was in bed and wanted me to wash the patio door window in the bedroom - ao he could instruct (LOL) anyhow -- he finally got mad cause the words up was not up down was not down nothing was coming out making any sense.. so he decided he was gonna show me how…. well i got him up the brace, shoes etc. and sat him on the chair .. i pushed him over to the window and said i will be right back i am gonna grab a new cloth- so i run into the bathroom ( which connects to the bedroom) come back and he had somehow managed to pull himself up and must have been thinking he was gonna do it… except ( we all know the "except") he lost his balance and was standing bouncing his head into the wall in a attempt to balance himself, he was rapidly falling backwards - i got to him in time - but again how quick things go "south"….. nancyl

This is the place I am signed up with, they sound great but I'm not sure it would work out for me. But I've done this kind of work before and they sounded like a great company.

http://www.sunshinedemos.com/

Around here you start at $15 hour.

However as Nancy says, it might just be a dream, even though it's part time with no direct supervision.