Cagin, from what you say, it doesn't seem like they have given you much info on what she should be trying to swallow and not.    Liquids are usually a big no no for someone who can't swallow, because they can run right down to their lungs.   Can she make a cough, like when you clear your throat?   Many times, they can't.    They would have Bob put his fist to his mouth, like he was going to make a cough and imitate a cough for him and he would make a humming sound.   Better than nothing, but not a cough!   This is an important test, it means if they can cough then they can clear their throat of plegm - hmm... not spelling that right, but I don't want to dwell on that word, ha, ha.  Bob was able to take his pills by putting them one at a time in applesauce, not water.  

First make sure she is sitting up before putting anything in her mouth.   Bob will choke (still yet) if he even drinks cover and leaning back in the chair.   To tell the truth, I do too!   We both have to make a point to sit up and lean in a little.    At this stage, any liquid she gets should have thickening (like starch) so that it is not so water like.   But you say she has taken the 3 tsp without choking at all?    Be sure to mention this to them.    Sit her all the way up, legs down, not leaning back in the bed like a recliner, and try applesauce.

Did they not give you a list of foods / drinks to thicken and try?   

Read this:

http://www.ehow.com/about_5378646_swallowing-problems-after-stroke.html

Do you have something called BOOST or ENSURE there?    You can usually find it in the pharmacy part of the store.    You can pour a little of that into a small cup and freeze it just enough so that you can still get it on the spoon without having to stab it so hard.   That will more more nutrients.   You could try soft mashed potatoes with butter/margarine mixed in well (not pooled on top).   Custard.      I am a little more leary of dairy products because they can produce phlegm and would like to hear if she can cough to clear her throat.     Please tell if they gave her the swallow test and if she passed.    If the only reason she is not eating is taste, this will all be easier.   If she had no test or failed it, very much caution is needed.

Hello Sandy, mom knows you now...I've translated what you've written down over here as a comment, and she's thanking you for every bits and pieces of information.  Today, day18, 08.20.14 we went to the hospital to see her doctor @ the neurology department, and she told us about how to decide if grandma can really swallow or not...we tried yogurt today, via a teaspoon and it was a success...grandma did great...thanks... Grandma can not clear her throat fully but can cough...the throat muscles are not working I need to read the link you've posted above...still couldn't read it...she did not have a swallow test, the the doctor the only test was to test and see...trial and error that is...=( oh, and we got her up but just leaning 90° in bed, not legs down...we must try that sometime but with the nose feeder pipe, it's really a pain to give her any position to be honest...thank god the nurse who started working in the daytime is a wonderful lady, full of energy...and she's strong...=) that's our luck I guess...

coughing is great.    That is what you would do if something went down wrong, you would cough to try to get it out.   Be sure to buy the high calorie with sugar and fat yogurts and puddings.    The calories are what they need when eating so little.

At the time of Bob's stroke, I was vegetarian, and only fed him the highest quality of foods.    I was so sad to see him eating white mashed potatoes & gravy, -pure junk to me.    But high carbs for someone who wasn't eating.    Is your grandmother diabetic?