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Who Will Take Care of Me?


Punch1021

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On March 7, I am scheduled for hopefully out patient surgery. I say hopefully because my doctor told me I am high risk and they might keep me overnight to monitor me. The surgery is nothing major but something I need to take care of. However, I might have to postpone it. First, I have to find a Hematologist to help clear me for this surgery. I actually need three other doctors to clear me for this procedure. Finding a Hematologist that will clear me in three weeks is a tall order. I need this doctor because the warfarin is making me bleed somewhere and it's making me anemic. I thought my anemia was from lack of iron but the Hematologist will help me out.

 

My second reason to postpone is that I need someone to take care of me. As many people as I help, I am running a short list of who can help me. My best friend lives in CA. My other best friend cannot drive. I am trying to be supportive of her now that her mom has had surgery but now she is a facility recuperating. I have other friends but once they had their child we haven't seen each other lately. My parents live in SC. They haven't come up to see me in ten years. They used to come visit over mothers day weekend. But now I always go home. It's a complicated and painful as to why my parents will not come up. My mother has this mental block now on traveling here. She used to say she would come up and see me when my dad wasn't as quick to come visit me. Then he got cancer so he couldn't travel. Ok. Then it was who will watch our home because they finally built their dream home? They have a security system and a policeman who lives next door. Also my aunt and uncle are two doors down. My dad has been fine for almost ten years, but my mom hasn't said anything. Now it's my dad who says he will leave her to see me. I think he is upset they didn't see me when I was in the hospital. I blame myself for that because I didn't tell them about my first stroke until I was in the hospital for the second one.

 

So who will take care of me? Who will be with me at the hospital, then take me home and watch me for two days? I normally don't have anxiety or panic attacks, but this simple surgery is about to cause one. Believe it or not my stroke hospital time was much easier. When me and my ex were at least good friends they took me to the er and brought me home. Second hospital stay I drove myself. Yes I know I shouldn't have but I did. I had no one else and I could not bring myself to dial 911. My ex took me home again but I flew to SC the next day because my parents were not driving up. Just thinking about this is making me sad. It makes me feel rather lonely. I know something will work out, but for now it's not looking to good.

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Man I wish I had good suggestions in your case but I'm blank on thoughts at the moment but hopefully you will find a way to have someone care for you after your surgery.....

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I wish you a speedy recovery too.  Here in Australia you would be eligible for respite until you were recovered enough to go home alone but there - I do not know if there is help available. 

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I just want to wish you well. Hope something can be worked out. Can you go into a respite? Mention it to your doctor, hopefully something can be worked out.

 

Praying for you

 

Yvonne

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When people can not go home on their own, they can go into a nursing home to recover.   A stroke friend did that with a broken leg and my mom did it when she had a pacemaker put in.   The doctor has to do it, and make sure it is authorized by the insurance.      It has to be a case where you are a real admitted patient (not in for observasion) for the insurance to work.

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I do know that worrying about it doesn't help. If it were me Id just go to the hospital and let whatever happen happen. I'm sure this situation arises every day at the hospital. It's not the best solution but there is no best solution. What willbe will be. Wish we could just all be together for each other. Let us know how it all works out. Hugs.

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I'm in the process of setting up some surgery for myself and the surgeon is setting it up so I can  go to the hospital rehab ward for a few days after the surgery and standard recovery stay.  So that once they are sure that the pain etc.is under control, when I would normally be sent home I'll move down the corridor in the hospital where they'll help me with ADL training(dressing, shower etc.) walking and balance to prepare me for going home alone in a cast.  Does such a system exist where you are?

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It all depends on insurance.  This is just minor surgery.  For anyone else they can go home, call a cab or hire a cg. Because of my strokes, being on Warfarin, etc, I am considered high risk.  Even if I am able to stay at the hospital, the question is who will take me home? 

 

 

 

I'm in the process of setting up some surgery for myself and the surgeon is setting it up so I can  go to the hospital rehab ward for a few days after the surgery and standard recovery stay.  So that once they are sure that the pain etc.is under control, when I would normally be sent home I'll move down the corridor in the hospital where they'll help me with ADL training(dressing, shower etc.) walking and balance to prepare me for going home alone in a cast.  Does such a system exist where you are?

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