Thank you Asha for sharing this story with us.  Whatever the circumstances i am so glad Ray came through the many strokes and I had him as my husband for 44 years.  Yes he could have died in 1999 and yet we had those extra years as parents and grandparents to enjoy being a family and I am grateful for that.

I wish you and your husband many more good years together.

You are so right Asha, none of us know in advance what life has for any of us we just go day by day and being a survivor is better than being a victum and never know what hit you like it did me but I got to the hospital just in timt as my wife was on a dental appointment and came home early to find me passed out....

I got to the hospital just in time and thanks to God I'm still here 12 years later.....

Aha ( twin sister from another mother) although 9 years behind you on my journey, as I read your post, I thought oh my, I could have written that post. Thanks for sharing, very beautifully put.

Can't wait to someday have our families meet

Be well sis

Jay

I agree so much Asha.   From my caregiver point of view, and it does matter the attitude of the stroker, but here I count everyday a blessing.   If he were mean to me, or one who couldn't see now or the future for the past, I couldn't say the same thing.   But I think he's even a better person than before the stroke - and he was good before.   He understands more things now, that escaped him before.   I hope to have many happy years left, and do not wish to be free of it at all!    I just want to be with Bob

Yes, I choose life. After my stroke, I was struck with terror. I said to the nurse, I do not know if I can live like this. He said many people are born with dislabilities and they live.

I have intense daily pain too and I still am glad to be discovering how to live.