Tracy, your family are going through a hard patch for sure.  Hope it all works out and you can pay the rent on time. Your husband's BP sounds a bit of a worry. See if you can get him to do something relaxing, for Ray it was a snooze in the afternoon, for me a quiet read in a sunny corner or somewhere in the garden. We all need to have time off and time out but it is hard to find the time we need to do that sometimes.

Thanks Sue that's what I said to him too. He's said what time I don't have any time. I told him he was just going to have to make time each day he is off. An hour just an hour just for him. I told him I have learned something on this journey of mine that we have to take for ourselves so that we can have the energy and care for taking care of others. He fussed with me and said you can't add time. I explained that i didn't say add but make time and it actually gives you energy to fight better and stronger. 

Tracy that is all so hard, I do hope he takes the advice.  The trouble is if he doesn't make time now he may not get a choice about it later.  When you push a body too far it breaks. And I get that it's stressing him out which makes the whole thing harder to change.  If he can make a small change to his daily routine he should find that the stress reduces and the energy increases but it can be so hard for him to see that until after the change starts to work.  It's so easy to keep on doing what you've always done.  Try to be patient and let him do this for himself.  Pushing from you at the wrong time will only make it harder for him ( But I know you know this )

We are here for you even if we can't do much from this side of the world

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tracy, the way I take my blood pressure is to take it ~5 times and DON'T LOOK AT THE READINGS and the fifth time record it.  mood and anxiety affect my blood pressure.  you don't look at them cause if they are bad they might very easily cause more anxiety and get worse.

hope things with Adrian get better.

david

Thank you Heather I really know and feel my support here. David I'm the same as you I get anxiety from things just like that. My husband would tell you he never has anxiety and he always "got this". So from a small distance I try to be his buffer. Maybe sometimes when he doesn't even know it. Adrian is feeling lots better just tired. The doctor said he may have run into a virus even. He drew blood and took him off of his blood pressure meds right now cause his reeadings are just right without them.