BONNIE,

i completely understand that "down" feeling of trying to live up to expectations and being overwhelmed. i worry about everyone like you do, as well. i have trouble "pulling it all together" too. i envy people who can toddle through the day and let everything roll off of their backs like little wet ducks. i guess i am too high strung, type a, perfectionist, WHATEVER, but that doesn't make it any less stressful.

unfortunately, i have no advice to offer, only the comradery of you knowing that YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!!!!

KIM

Hi Bonnie,

Bad days happen to us all. Just know that tomorrow is a brand new day and things will get better. Don't let the chores and house overwhelm you. Just get done what you have to and to hell with the rest. No one will fire you if your house isn't perfect or properly cleaned. If you do get fired, so what? Less you have to do. Post stroke attitude for women I have learned is compensate, see things differently then you did pre stroke, stop looking at your house and all the rest that we did with pre stroke eyes, we are different now, we have been changed. The secret is to find a way to do it all in a different way, a way that suits our post stroke selves better. Whether it takes us longer or we break it down into smaller segments. But don't beat yourself up trying to do what you once did. That only adds to your frustration.

Sit down, turn on the tv, relax and take a few deep breaths!

Pam

Thanks Kim and Pam....did manage to get a little done today and also some relaxing time. Also working with wet land issues on our property here. The lady from the county came out ....she is happy with the progress we have made and I told her the llamas have a new home

the unexpected visit from her went well...so that is one thing VERY good thing that happened today.so can breath a bit easier on that issue...was actually quite worrisome. I am feeling better about that now.

and as you say tomorrow is another day.........the dust will still be here when I am gone..lol

Bonnie:

Lately I have been having days of feeling really "down in the dumps" and really can't figure out why.

When I feel this way I stop trying to take on the whole day and just take one hour at a time. It really helps me.

I hope your feeling better soon.........

Kim