Ouch that sound nasty. If inserting a catheter hurts can he get a permanent catheter inserted? I'm assuming a condom catheter won't help as the problem is he can't pee voluntarily so the cath needs to get behind the sphincter.  if he can't or won't take pills by mouth, would the suspensions they use for little kids help?  Of course you've probably already been through all of this and here I am offering possible solutions when you just needed to scream.

So HUGS and yes you are heard. Hang in there and try not to slap him 🙂

I'm so very sorry Nancy. I know how difficult I am at times with my wife for so much less reason. I work on trying to be kind but mess up all the time. I can imagine the monster I might be if I had to have her do that. The fact that Dan is voiding some seems like a little good news. Praying for your strength and that this condition heals soon for you guys. 

Oh Nancy.

I know it's tough for Dan, but it is obviously so tough for you. Knowing there's things you can do, but unable to do.

Thinking of you 

💚👑

Does massage help? I read somewhere that that is helpful. On the whole caregivers are not able to overcome the survivor's free choices. I found that with Ray, that "No" meant "#@% No!!!" And that it can become a medical problem.