FAMILY
SOME PEOPLE MAY THINK THAT FAMILIES ARE NO LONGER "IN VOGUE", OR THAT THEY DON'T NEED "A FAMILY". I DISAGREE.
I CAN UNDERSTAND IF SOMEONE GREW UP IN AN ABUSIVE OR HOSTILE NON NURTURING ENVIRONMENT THAT THEY MIGHT NOT WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH ***THAT** FAMILY, BUT I THINK WE ALL NEED A SUPPORT SYSTEM IN OUR LIVES. I CAN'T THINK OF THE AUTHOR'S NAME ( HELP JEAN) BUT THAT SEVERELY ABUSED MAN WHO WROTE THAT BOOK " A BOY CALLED IT" WHO WAS ROUTINELY CHAINED TO A TOILET, STARVED, BEATEN, AND FORCED TO EAT HIS OWN VOMIT, AMONG OTHER THINGS, HAS PUBLICLY FORGIVEN HIS PARENTS.
IN FACT, ONCE HE WAS RESCUED FROM THAT HORRID EXISTENCE, THE FIRST THING HE SOUGHT WAS A FAMILY. HE FOUND THIS WITH A FOSTER FAMILY AND OTHER MENTORS IN HIS LIFE. NOW HE IS A HAPPY (ACCORDING TO HIM) FATHER AND HUSBAND, PART OF A FAMILY.
I CAN'T IMAGINE NOT BEING ABLE TO PICK UP THE PHONE AND CALL MY PARENTS, GRANDMOTHERS, OR SISTERS OR A HOST OF COUSINS AUNTS AND UNCLES. EVEN IF WE DON'T COMMUNICATE FOR A YEAR FOR WHATEVER REASON ( NOT THE IMMEDIATE FAMILY, THAT IS CONSTANT), WE ARE ALWAYS THERE FOR EACH OTHER. THAT HAS BEEN WHAT'S MISSING, I BELIEVE, IN MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS. THE MEN DIDN'T HAVE STRONG FAMILY TIES. MY FIANCE'S FAMILY HAS BONDED WITH ME AND TAKEN ME IN AS ONE OF THEIR OWN. IT MAKES ME FEEL LOVED AND SAFE IN THIS NEW ENVIRONMENT SO FAR AWAY FROM MY HOME. THIS IS ALSO MY HOME NOW. :chat:
SURE,WE HAVE HAD ARGUEMENTS, ANNOYANCES, AND OTHER RIFTS, BUT I WOULD GIVE MY OWN LIFE FOR ANY OF MY FAMILY AS I LOVE THEM MORE THAN I LOVE MYSELF. DADDY HAS DIABETES AND IT IS ONLY A MATTER OF TIME BEFORE HE WILL NEED A KIDNEY TRANSPLANT. HE IS 65, IN POOR HEALTH, AND NOT A GOOD RISK AT ALL FOR A DONOR ORGAN. I KNOW HE WOULD BE PUT AT THE BOTTOM OF THE LIST, **IF** HE GOT ON A LIST AT ALL.
I HAVE ALREADY SPOKEN TO HIS CASEWORKER AT THE VA AND TOLD HER I WANTED TO DONATE ONE OF MY KIDNEYS WHEN THE TIME CAME. APPARENTLY, IF A FAMILY MEMBER MATCHES WELL ENOUGH, THEY DON'T ASK TOO MANY QUESTIONS. IF THEY DO, I WILL LIE, UNLESS IT NEGATIVELY AFFECTS HIS HEALTH. WHAT ARE WE IF WE DON'T LOVE OUR FAMILIES? EVEN THE FAMILIES SOME OF HAVE HAD TO CREATE? DO WE LOVE THEM ENOUGH TO DIE FOR THEM? IF NOT, THEY AREN'T REALLY FAMILY, IN MY EYES.
I NEVER LOVED A SPOUSE ENOUGH TO ANSWER THAT QUESTION **** YES I WOULD DIE FOR YOU****** TILL NOW. I CAN SAY THAT WITH ALL HONESTY. I DON'T SIT AROUND THINKING......"THEY MIGHT DIE, I'LL DIE FOR THEM, LIKE SOME FREAK OR MARTYR. IT'S JUST A FACT OF THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS THAT SWIM THROUGH MY HEAD SOMETIMES, A MEASURING STICK OF LOVE, IF YOU WILL.
ALL ANIMALS SEEK A FAMILY. DOLPHINS HAVE INTERCOURSE SOMETIMES JUST TO BOND, WHALES MATE FOR LIFE. THERE ARE COUNTLESS OTHERS THAT LIVE THEIR ENTIRE LIVES WITHIN THE CONFINES AND PROTECTION OF A FAMILY. HUMANS ARE NO DIFFERENT. SOME OF US HAVE JUST LOST THE CONCEPT. :head_hurts:
I WISH I WAS HALF PINT ON THE "LITTLE HOUSE ON THE PRAIRIE". THINGS WERE SO MUCH SIMPLER THEN.
KIM :friends:
PS: **THIS TIME** THE FIFTH MARRIAGE, I AM GOING TO TAKE MY HUSBAND'S LAST NAME. I NEVER DID THAT BEFORE. :giggle: :dribble:
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