Can't get any information
Larry's been in the SNF since Mother's day, so it's been several weeks. I have been trying to find out what the next step is - is he a candidate for acute rehab again (that's my hope), or are they going to cut him loose and send him home? If they send him home, how much notice will I be given?
I've been told by people in the community that you're typically given a couple of weeks' notice before they send someone home. Is that true? The social worker told me that their protocol is more like 48 hours, which is pretty horrifying, since I still need to hire a caregiver, finish the bath remodel and get the wheelchair ramp built, not to mention figuring out what kind of durable medical equipment is and isn't covered, and how I can get it. And, let's not forget my very demanding full time job! The stroke has really changed my entire life - I feel as though someone turned me upside down and shook me, and my head is still spinning!
I ran into one of the ST's this evening after hours and he told me unsolicited that someone from Acute was there today to evaluate Larry and that it sounded like he's not ready to go back there. Nice that nobody called me or gave me any information. I emailed the case manager (since it was after hours) and asked how the evaluation went and what is going on. If she says that Larry's not ready to go back to acute, what then? Should I fight, or is he better of at home with a full time caregiver while I work? I am so torn - these places are awful, but he does get some therapy, and I know that's important.
Some dear friends are coming on Saturday to install the Web cam in Larry's room, and to help me clean out the garage (you would know what true friends they are if you had ever seen my garage - it is not a pretty sight!). I know I will make some progress on getting ready for Larry's return, but I still have a ways to go before I'll really feel ready to have him back.
Larry was in a good spirits today, smiling at me a lot and wanting to hold my hand. I felt like he really wanted me there, which was very nice. I felt appreciated and loved, and I need that too even though I'm not the one who had the stroke. Sometimes I feel as though he just wants me to leave when he's having a bad day, so it was good that we were enjoying being together.
xxxoo
..jm..
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