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Today I am writing my last entry. When I thought of doing this, I thought I could do this and help people just starting out in their new life after stroke, because I did it for 24 years but I find I have nothing to say, I guess I just lived one day at a time and faced whatever difficiulties one by one. I am optimistic in nature so I never stopped myself doing anything because I didn't see myself as handicapped. I did what I wanted to and if I didn't want to do something, I had a good excuse not to. That didn't happen often because soon after my stroke, I wanted to go back to my life. That meant moving out of my parents place(I was there as a condition for being released from hospital) and getting my kids back.

I can't say it was easy because it wasn't but I never thought one minute that things could be different. It wasn't normal for me at 30 years old to be living with my parents so I just had to move and the same thing about my kids. I could not fathom somebody else raising them so I was determined to get them back though this took five years to do I never gave up and then 5 years later my lawyer suggested joint custody and that seemed the best thing to do under the circumstances. That worked until my oldest started High School. So from then on until they had their own place, they pretty much decided where they wanted to be. I lived through pretty bad stuff with my kids but also some darn good times. My life changed drastically after my stroke and then again when I met the love of my life 20 years later. So I guess thats life and you have to learn to roll with the punches and make the best of difficult situations. So this is pretty much all I have to say. Thank you everyone for reading my ramblings.

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I hope you change your mind and continue blogging. I, for one, have enjoyed your fresh and creative style of writing. You have accomplished so much on your own and found love again after so many years. We have learned much about you, Andre, your family and etc. And, yes, I even know you were able to begin wearing regular shoes again. Kudos to you.

 

My admiration to you for all that you have accomplished and will continue to accomplish. As the song says, "don't quit now."

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I am sure that you have a great excuse for not wanting to blog anymore... Right.

 

Turning ones back on the stroke community should be a piece of cake.

 

There are thousands of new stroke survivors every year who need the encouragement of someone positive who has been there, done that and wears the t shirt.

 

But hay since you have nothing to say why waste breath talking to that crowd.

 

Wishing you the very best with the rest of your life. We will still be here if you change your mind and decide to come back.

 

Smiles :)

 

Gary

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Marie,

 

I too hope that you continue blogging as blogging is therapeutic for everyone. Perhaps a bit of time away will help you. I know myself I've taken breaks here and there when I didn't think I had anything to say. Sometimes we forget that knowledge is power and and the knowledge we've gained in our own stroke recovery can and is beneficial to others as they embark on their stroke journey.

 

You have NOT rambled in your blogs dear lady, you've shared a wealth of information and inspiration. You've inspired me that's for sure.

 

You are loved.

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Marie, as a caregiver I learn a lot from the survivors, particularly the bloggers so you are helping me too. I too hope you will keep on blogging.

 

I usually blog about something current but sometimes something from the past crops up to bite me so I include that too. It is 18 years since Ray's first stroke, only three years since his last so there is a lot of our life together that has been "stroke affected".

 

Maybe you could tell us in your next blog how you met the love of your life?

 

(((Hugs))) from Sue.

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Marie,

As a newbie here I can tell you that if anyone rambles it is I. So don't leave me here to ramble alone. :) Everyone has his or her own style and I like yours. Its is yours and no one else can do it like you do. Seriously, I think it is therapeutic for me as well as for you.

 

Please give quitting a 2nd thought, you never know what one sentence might touch one or give them hope.

 

"I am optimistic in nature so I never stopped myself doing anything because I didn't see myself as handicapped." Marie, these are your words not mine.

 

It seems to me you have everything to say and alot more :)

 

Ann

 

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Marie:

 

I really hope & pray you change your mind. as you see from other's comments, you never know whose life you are touching with your blogs. your blogs always gave me confirmation that yes I am on right track in living my day to day life. As you can see from my blogs I write nothing but about my family and it has helped me immensely accepting & embracing newme. I feel by these blogs you are giving hope to so many newbies who are still in the begining of their journey. you are providing them hope and tools to embrace reality. I really hope you don't quit blogging.

 

Asha

 

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