Happy anniversary tomorrow, hope you two enjoy the day! Seems like you are doing all the things you need to do in getting better.

Yes January is half gone. We will have another President next week so this month is full of happenings!

Leah,

Glad to hear things re going much better for you dear. Hope your dinner out was great. Open communication is usually the key to relationships; glad you and Jerry had a heart to heart talk and cleared the air a bit.

I have faith that you will be just fine while Jerry is away on his trip. Kudos to you for setting your boundaries with your friend. I 'm sure that was difficult for you but necessary.

Leah,

 

Glad to hear things re going much better for you dear. Hope your dinner out was great. Open communication is usually the key to relationships; glad you and Jerry had a heart to heart talk and cleared the air a bit.

 

I have faith that you will be just fine while Jerry is away on his trip. Kudos to you for setting your boundaries with your friend. I 'm sure that was difficult for you but necessary.

thanks Donna for the support. I think this is another opportunity for growth in my recovery. Leah

hi leah!

i was very happy to read your post and hear you are over all the bugs and flus and colds! glad you got your meds changed and it is great you know that the man you saw is not right for you as far as therapy. i encourage you to try again with a psychologist...use the psychiatist for meds. it is super you and jerry opened up to each other, but i still feel talking to a pro"just for yourself" can be a really good use of time.

sometimes i think we survivors are so busy trying to recover and get some semblance of our lives back that we can forget how our partner may feel. they don't want to complain after all we have been through but lets face it their lives are changed forever too. i remember my hubby saying that this (meaning my stroke" was not how he saw his retirement. any way we look at i, stroke changes everything and touches so many people in our lives.

good for you for telling little miss fix it to back off! i know you will do fine while jerry is away and it shows how strong you are to give him the resite he needs with grace. i bet you may even enjoy some of your down time.

so cool about the silver sneakers......i too am back in the pool. i am gradually building up at 15 minute increments. my stamina is just the pits!

leah, keep us up to date...sounds like life is starting to fall into place....it was almost three years until i felt i had any kind of handle on the new post stroke me. take care , kathy

Leah:

I was so happy to read this post I know now 2009 onwards life will be full of fun & excitement for you. Just from your blogs I can see how far you have come in your recovery mentally & physically. I am so happy that you and Jerry talked & you are able to see his outing as positive thing in your relationship. I am sure you will thrive alone on your own. g;ad you were able to speak up & keep out & keep ms fix it all ar bay. looyking forward to your report on how u handled it all alone.

cheers,

Asha

leah, i am so happy for you that 2009 is working in your favor so far. i agree that you will do fine being by yourself, it does help our feelings of independence. i too am home alone alot of the time. saturday nights is my hubby's alone time from caregiving. i too was upset at 1st but i got over it realizing he needs a break and so did i. i am able to do alot on my own except drive, which is ok to me. happy anniversary to you and enjoy your night out. you sound like you are doing just fine. you keep forging ahead on your recovery, which is a great thing. i wish you the best in all you do. be careful and keep us posted on how you are doing.kimmie

Thanks a lot, kimmie. We fellow Arizonians need to stick together. Sure are glad we don't have the snow to contend with. I have enough women friends who know my situation that I could call them for help if necessary. Our dinner last night was very nice and Jerry even enjoyed himself. Neither one of us are good with large groups and this was just one other couple around our age. The guys had a lot in common so that was good. the wife was my friend to start with so now with the guys getting along and we live close together, we are going to try to do this once in a while (3-6 months or so). Thanks for your comments and support kimmie; it means a lot. Fondly, Leah (I guess you are another person who burns the midnight oil!!

Leah,

You really do sound like you're having a great start to 2009! it's great that you've found peace of mind emotionally and some reclaimed sense of independence. Happy 25th anniversary! I hope the rest of the year's blogs are as happy as this for you.

Maria

Leah,

You really do sound like you're having a great start to 2009! it's great that you've found peace of mind emotionally and some reclaimed sense of independence. Happy 25th anniversary! I hope the rest of the year's blogs are as happy as this for you.

Maria

Thanks Maria, for your input. I haven't really found peace of mind but it is better and I am working on it one day @ a time. Today I do have a pool class; I would rather pull the covers over my head and hibernate, but that wouldn't help, would it ? DUH. I know I'll feel better when I am in the pool. Leah