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Delayed Gratification



I'm wondering if my depression is due to having delaying gratification and then being slammed into a wall with a stroke. bop.gif So, now, I feel cheated of the rewards of waiting... silly.gif

As a child, I was unconsciously trained to think:

I'll be happy when...

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are. After that, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, when we are able to go on a nice vacation or when we retire. The truth is there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges.

It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. Treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time with ... and remember that time waits for no one.


So, stop waiting ...

Until your car or home is paid off.

Until you get a new car or home.

Until your kids leave the house.

Until you go back to school.

Until you finish school.

Until you lose 10 lbs.

Until you gain 10 lbs.

Until you get married.

Until you get a divorce.

Until you have kids.

Until you retire.

Until summer.

Until spring.

Until winter.

Until fall.

Until you die.

There is no better time than right now to be happy. Happiness is a journey, not a destination. So work like you don't need money, love like you've never been hurt, and dance like no one's watching.

Author Unknown


So, perhaps this is what makes people bitter against traditional religion. Do you think? I say this because most organized religions teach us to be 'good' so we'll get a reward.....

Just a thought.... waycon1.gif


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Hi Janice,


What you are saying is good common sense with a lot of positive thinking thrown in. Thanks for reminding us that our moods and outlook on life are most often choices that we make.




P.S. I don't get the connection, though, to organized religion. Was this topic a Sunday sermon?

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i didn't notice you giving any author credit for that so i assume that you wrote it. i happen to think it is very PROFOUND!!!! i am so guilty of waiting for this or that and THEN i can be happy that it's MADDENING!!!!!. what you had to say has made me re-think that whole issue that i didn't even realize i had. thankyou. maybe TODAY, i can be happy.




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