Kim:

this was hilarious, your blogs r always funny and sometime scary, i guess i should not judge anybody by their cover

but i learnt valuable lesson in lifeused to be always unhappy about my marriage, but after stroke i realised its not he who have changed its me who hav e changed, in life we get whatever we r destined to, instead of finding faults in it, we can make best out of what we got, there might be so many faults within us, and if we all just get along then there won't be any broken homes

Asha

Ah, the memories.

I can remember after my 3rd engagment ended I said "That's enough! No more dating, no more romance! It is just me and my cat from here on out!" I also made a list of all the qualities I wanted in a mate, just in case I decided to start dating again.

That was good for a few months. Then one night I got bored and found a chat room I liked and started visiting it regulary. One night the topic got onto dating and the differences in guys and girls. A newby came into the group and started ranting and raving. I gave the newby some of my perspectives, and we went into private chat to talk, since it seemed we were the only two on the same level when it came to the topic. When we said our goodnights, we added each other to our buddy lists on MSM. Well over the next few months a strong online friendship formed. It got scary when it turned out that two people who had decided to give up on love for a while were starting to fall in love. It wasn't something either of us wanted, but it happened. To add a bonus each of us matched the other's "ideal partner" list to the letter. That was almost 5 years ago, and in August we're celebrating our 4th wedding aniversary.

The point? Make you list, stick to your guns, and don't settle. You can be perfectly happy by yourself. Once you realize that you don't need a hubby, then fate has a way of sending one your way that meets and excedes what you truly want.

And on a personal note. Don't want to raise a hubby? I'm 15 years younger than Kathy, and truth be told I tend to be more parental in the relationship then she does. It's a maturity thing I guess. Some people never grow up, while others grow up too fast. Me and Kathy have an inside joke. I'm mature for my age, and she's immature for her age...so we meet somewhere in the middle.

Cheers;

Michael