Hey, Karen, I was wondering what had happened to you...glad you are back home and on solid footing. Wow! What an experience you have had! I don't have any answers but know that you need to take care of yourself.

I was diagnosed with breast cancer in October and have had two surgeries and radiation. I begin chemo on January 7. I'm now a stroke survivor and will, hopefully, be a breast cancer survivor.

2010 has got go be better for both of us...I am praying for you.

Karen,

I have several friends who are suffering from fibromyalgia and it can be very debilitating. The one stayed at our home several years ago, and to look at her you would never know she was so debilitated until she tried to walk or help with anything. During the night, she got up to use the restroom and fell just getting out of bed, and her husband was able to help her up as he is a very tall and strong man. I am sorry that you had to go through such a rough time with your friend, and hope that you are able to get some much needed rest.

Sarah

Karen,

 

I have several friends who are suffering from fibromyalgia and it can be very debilitating. The one stayed at our home several years ago, and to look at her you would never know she was so debilitated until she tried to walk or help with anything. During the night, she got up to use the restroom and fell just getting out of bed, and her husband was able to help her up as he is a very tall and strong man. I am sorry that you had to go through such a rough time with your friend, and hope that you are able to get some much needed rest.

 

Sarah

Unfortunate for me that I only have so much to give. In Arizona she actually does much better as well. I would say that at times she sure had me counting my blessings to have only suffered a stroke and not have gotten Fibromyalgia My husband has RA and post Polio so I know that pain and ability levels can fluctuate One day she was so in pain and yet very same day later on the same day

she went bowling with a friend who lives here. I wonder if that is the real reason she lost her job recently I would think this should qualify those so afflicted to get disability. Any way as I say I am counting my blessings . Karen

hi karen, your blood pressure is top priority right now, i just went through the same with my blood pressure of 200/160, needless to say i was worried to death, i was put on another blood pressure med which solved my problem. and several return trips to the doctor for follow ups. as far as your friend, you have tried to help her. i know fibromylagia affects everyone different but i also know if you feed into that it will take over. i have a friend who used to help me out, by cleaning, cooking etc. and she had it also. but she was here pretty much everyday to do 6-8 hours of what i needed her to do. sure she had pain, but she did not let it prevent her from functioning. i also had a friend i used to work with and she had it, but she was able to work everyday as a social worker, plus take care of her dad, who suffered from alzheimers, plus take care of her family. maybe your friend needs professional help or pain management counseling to help her cope. i know she needs a job probably. i don't think your friend is upset with you, you have tried to help her, if she is mad at you, she'll get over it. you can only do so much, if someone doesn't want to help themselves, you are fighting a loosing battle. encourage her to get help or apply for SSDI. the weather does affect how they feel so i've been told.

please take care of yourself now and get that b/p down. you have had alot of stress this past year. i pray this new year will be better for you. hugs kimmie

hi karen, your blood pressure is top priority right now, i just went through the same with my blood pressure of 200/160, needless to say i was worried to death, i was put on another blood pressure med which solved my problem. and several return trips to the doctor for follow ups. as far as your friend, you have tried to help her. i know fibromylagia affects everyone different but i also know if you feed into that it will take over. i have a friend you used to help me out, by cleaning, cooking etc. and she had it also. but she was here pretty much everyday to do 6-8 hours of what i needed her to do. sure she had pain, but she did not let it prevent her from functioning. i also had a friend i used to work with and she had it, but she was able to work everyday as a social worker, plus take care of her dad, who suffered from alzheimers, plus take care of her family. maybe your friend needs professional help or pain management counseling to help her cope. i know she needs a job probably. i don't think your friend is upset with you, you have tried to help her, if she is mad at you, she'll get over it. you can only do so much, if someone doesn't want to help themselves, you are fighting a loosing battle. encourage her to get help or apply for SSDI. the weather does affect how they feel so i've been told.

please take care of yourself now and get that b/p down. you have had alot of stress this past year. i pray this new year will be better for you. hugs kimmie

Thanks Kimmie I have cried buckets and buckts of tears over this whole thing. I put my life on hold for her did all the cooking and cleaning and still nothing was enough not there or here I am on new meds now trying to get through all this my BP is even higher in the last two weeks and the doctor is fit to be tied why did I not just sent this friend packing. He said if he had to diagose it hed say I am pretty close to mental and pyysical exhaustian and that of the two of us the only one that has something that might make her uncomfortable is her my situation could kill and be the end of me so why I am letting guilt of not being enough eat me alive is more than he can understand. What I know is I am safe at home now. She left in the middle of the night in a snit and at the end of all that I am not a bad person for trying to help her I just forgot to take care of myself in this mess too. Thank you so much Kimmie for understanding Love Karen