Yes, this is scary. I know how you feel. I left an abusive husband, went back to school and worked full time, from being a stay-at-home mom. A lot of the time, I think Garion (my oldest) got the short end of that deal too. I also look at friends who lived their lives differently and think that if I had lived my life the way they did, I'd be "further along that road" too. BUt then I think I also might have had my stroke sooner, and I might not have the 3 kids that I do. OK, I'm not surrounded by the same material things that many of my friends are and I don't have money "to burn." BUT....I have Garion, Jalane (Laney) and Logan. Those are the greatest treasures in the world, and ones that cannot be taken away by a down-turned economy!

I'm not good at letting them go either. The phone rings and I jump because 2 of my 3 are living out of the house now. They will always be your babies, asa mine will always be my babies.

kelly:

life is full of choices we made in this journey, some bad, some good, as long as we are learning & growing from them, nothing is wasted. as a parent we all tend to go through lot of guilt of not doing some things right & forget how many things we did right. I believe we all come to this earth with our own destiny, though I feel as a parent its our job to love our kids unconditionally, and be there for them when they need us.

Asha

Yes, this is scary. I know how you feel. I left an abusive husband, went back to school and worked full time, from being a stay-at-home mom. A lot of the time, I think Garion (my oldest) got the short end of that deal too. I also look at friends who lived their lives differently and think that if I had lived my life the way they did, I'd be "further along that road" too. BUt then I think I also might have had my stroke sooner, and I might not have the 3 kids that I do. OK, I'm not surrounded by the same material things that many of my friends are and I don't have money "to burn." BUT....I have Garion, Jalane (Laney) and Logan. Those are the greatest treasures in the world, and ones that cannot be taken away by a down-turned economy!

 

I'm not good at letting them go either. The phone rings and I jump because 2 of my 3 are living out of the house now. They will always be your babies, asa mine will always be my babies.

this is really starting to be so cool that you are more me then .......well me lol

I can't speak as a parent but you did what you needed to do. Stop punching yourself. You were a great mom then and your a great mom now and always. Guilt kills. Let it go. Talk to your older son if it bothers you and let him know from you so that he doesn't have any misunderstanding.

Clear the air let you son know you feel guilty and hear his side if he feels cheated.

My mother was brought up as a parent to keep things to yourself. When she had months to live, I sat down with my mother, her being 70 and me being 46 and cleared the air. I let my mother explain and be at peace at her time of death.

remembertolaugh, Jeanniebean :cocktail: