all of my life i have tried to avoid just saying NO, somehow NO without a backup explantion seemed, well, unfriendly. i have recently changed my views on the subject. i have grown TIRED of repeating myself over and over and over and over to the SAME PEOPLE and being questioned as to WHY i can't do a particular thing that ( whatEVER) IT IS THEY WANT ME TO DO AT THE MOMENT. by not just saying NO, i leave the door open for three things.

1) their talking me ( or should i say wearing me down) into doing something i DO NOT WANT TO DO

2) them annoying me so much that i get all worked up and red in the face

3) taking up my VALUABLE time with their useless and time consuming drivel

at any rate, my time always seems to get "stolen"

so in the past few weeks i have just started saying NO, with no explantion. i wish i would have done it sooner!!! it's SO LIBERATING!!!!!!!!!!!!

EXAMPLES

1) TELEMARKETER: " YOU WOULD LIKE TO VISIT THE ROCKIES, WOULDN'T YOU?"

ME: NO

TELEMARKETER" I KNOW YOU HAVE A GOOD RESSON FOR SAYING THAT, DO YOU MIND IF I ASKED YOU WHAT IT IS?"

ME : NO

TELEMARKETER: "OK, THEN WHAT IS YOUR REASON?"

ME: NO

TELEMARKETER:" THEN I CAN SIGN YOU UP?"

ME: NO

TELEMARKETER:" HAVE A NICE EVENING"

ME: NO

2) ASHLEY( DAUGHTER) "CAN I WEAR YOUR NEW CANVAS SHOES TO A DANCE ON FRIDAY?"

ME: NO

ASH: UH, OK

3) MOM: " CAN YOU MAKE TWO CASSEROLES FOR THE MUSIC CLUB LUNCHEON NEXT WEEK?"

ME: NO

MOM: "DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT IF IT'S TOO MUCH"

ME: NO

MOM:" KIM ARE YOU OK? YOU JUST KEEP SAYING NO"

ME: NO

MOM: WELL, OKAY THEN, I'LL LEAVE YOU ALONE AND LET YOU REST

4) CLIENT: " CAN YOU DO AN APPRAISAL IN ONE DAY?"

ME: NO

CLIENT: "I'LL PAY EXTRA"

ME: NO

CLIENT: CAN YOU DO IT IN TWO DAYS?"

ME: NO

CLIENT: "CAN YOU DO IT IN THREE DAYS?"

ME : NO

CLIENT : ( MEMORY LOSS COMING BACK I GUESS) "OH THAT'S RIGHT, YOU ALREADY TOLD ME IT WOULD BE A WEEK THE LAST TIME I CALLED. I'LL FAX IT RIGHT ON OVER".

5) HUBBY: " WANNA GO OUT TO EAT AND TO THE DOG TRACK TONIGHT?"

ME: NO

HUBBY: "WHAT ABOUT JUST OUT TO EAT?"

ME: NO

HUBBY: " WHAT ABOUT JUST THE DOG TRACK?"

ME: NO

HUBBY:" WELL, I GUESSS I'LL JUST LEAVE YOU ALONE AND LET YOU READ AND GET SOME REST"

MAYBE JUST MAYBE PLEASE LORD, THEY HAVE TAKEN THE HINT. I AM SOOOOOO TIRED OF EXPLAINING MYSELF I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO. KEEP IN MIND THAT ALL OF THESE EXAMPLES ARE REAL, AND THE PERPETRATORS HAVE ALREADY BEEN TOLD, AND WARNED THAT WHAT THEY ARE ASKING I DO NOT WISH TO DO, OR LET THEM DO. THEY HAVE BEEN TOLD OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER TO LEAVE LEAVE ME ME ME THE HELL HELL HELL HELL ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TIMES TEN.

I'M HOPING THIS NEW METHOD WILL WORK, OTHERWISE, I WILL HAVE TO START LOSING IT AGAIN.