Jhari I'm 60 overweight & had 2 babies - perfect risk factors for incontinence - thrown the stroke in & oops.

re: more incontinence recently. I've noticed a trend in myself - that if I am coming down with a viral infection- cold -- I seem to be worse for a few days. seems to improve again with the cold symptoms --- don't know if there is any medical credence to it . My doc said "maybe" as our bodies react & try to fight bugs in different ways.

Like I say, it holds trur for me. I get really frustrated I may have been handling/controlling it pretty well -- then for a few days several accidents per day- hope this is what's going on with your mom & it's just temporary& straightens out again soon very discouraging!

Susan from AlbertaCcanada

Thanks Susan, that makes sense. Mom was not incontinent today, so that was good. Still miserable with the cold though.

Jhari: Bruce struggles with incontinence, as you know, but we know it is overtoning. Once the medications were adjusted properly, it was totally on Bruce. With a lot of hard work, concentration and understanding that what he puts in he will put out, finally now, when he has a day with incontinence I know something is wrong, he is "off" somehow.

However Mom is on the other end, she is just beginning to learn what it is and that she somehow has to learn to control it. I have confidence, with her recovery so far, that she is making great strides forward. I do understand how difficult this is for her being in a facility. And I agree with Susan. Women have so many other factors to consider-lack of bladder tone just from child birth and aging, shorter distance (less time).

As to the facility, you are right on top of things. As exhausting as this is, you never know what you are walking into, you don't give up and for that you are to be commended. One thing I would suggest, however, is go to the housekeeper and ask for two containers of the wipes. Don't buy your own. They are going to give you some lip about patient safety, but assure them that you will not leave them in the room. Just leave one in your bag for your visits.

Thank you for the update. I do hope Mom's cold is resolving and that you don't get it. Good weekend, Debbie

Thanks Debbie. I did get the cold. Yesterday I didn't even go to the home. It's the 1st time I have missed a day. I was miserable. Mom started on an antibiotic on Wednesday. She was really not feeling well. When I went in on Wednesday, she was sleeping and slept until 11:45. They brought her lunch tray to her room. She felt a little better then, because she wanted to go to the bazaar they were having. We went and bought a few things. But then she wanted to lay back down.

My doctor called in an antibiotic for me last night and I just picked it up this afternoon. Mom was so much better today. She looked better and wasn't really congested at all. So hopefully things will keep improving there. As for me, I am going to take my medicine and cuddle up on the couch. Good weekend to you, too.