Ok so we made it AZ almost Ll was OK ..we did have a couple hour delay in Bismarck taking off... But we arrived and e drugging seemed ok.... Dan had made it clear he wanted to go to a casino.. So it became a priority for me to get us over to one on Sunday , we ate ..very little as Dan would say... At a local Denny's here... And I called Sarah from this area and made arrangements to meet up... Dan had somehow on the trip over from this are ( San tan valley ) to the Chandler area had a mental breakdown.. By the time we got to the casino he had morphed into this whole other person.... This was a guy I haven't seen in a while... Wouldn't talk , wouldn't play.. Meanwhile poor Sarah and her hubby had driven over to meet us... And my brother from CA was driving in, and it coincided with the casino meet up.. In the normal world, OK... But no can do.... Dan just wasn't coming around and did some weird gazing at the casino ceiling.. Almost seizure like and it might have been but he stopped when I touched him...I and Sarah got to visit very little , brother came , dans mood continued.. So leaving became the only thing to do.. Dan fell asleep on the way back .. I woke him upon arrival " home" but he was so tired I just let him sleep in the car, thank goodness it is a big suv type.... Cause it is now his home... He will. NOt get out of the vehicle... I have tried everything, but he just wants to go home.. So we arrived on sat night , slept here, went to a casino and now it appears I will be going home.... Because in true stroke Dan fashion he is refusing meds and liquids and food.... He is wet , won't change into dry briefs, won't come in and get cleaned up, won't change Into dry briefs in the vehicle, he is ruining the seat he is sitting on... will not talk, only points behind him.. Indicating his wish to go home... I have tried rationalizing with him, just come in and sleep till the time the plane is scheduled , just come use the bathroom...nothing.... Just this stroke guy who is selfish sits in the car,... BUt of course the stroke wins again this afternoon we will drive to the airport once he see's he has won, then he will get out of the vehicle...hopefully.. And I will end up cleaning him up in a public bathroom... One could say, oh must leave him eventually he will come around... No he won,t .. That isn't the way it goes.... I have been up 5 times checking on him.. As if I have slept anyways thus the 5 am stroknet blog... But the garage door into the house is open I can pretty much hear everything.... So my long awaited family reunion is ruined and I doubt I will travel again... My sister also flew in last night from CO my brother , and my sister and I .... ( 3 of 7 kids) have not gotten together since my moms funeral, remember she is the one who died because of dans stroke, came to help out got in a car accident .... So I was really looking forward to this, yes I have other siblings and we have seen each other .. Emily the sis from CO has been to ND but us 3 siblings together and my brother and I not since that funeral...so yep, I really got it made.... My husband is sitting in a vehicle , resentment is in my heart... The stroke wins !!! Again.... There is no negotiation with a stroke ...hopefully the inactivity will not cause a clot , but hey we are the luckiest people alive , so we will see what happens ...I am so , so very angry right now..took a risk and ...BOOM... Right in my face...