Ok first and foremost,THANK YOU SARAH...( she talked me out of a tree, almost literally) she reminded me of what I already ( we all already know) know.....and boy it has been a close one today ..I was one half hour from calling the airline and paying 500.00 e5

Extra dollars to fly home today... Yes I have travel insurance .. That is a shell game apparently.... All they guarantee is. It the cost of the flight , it is the cost of the flight you booked.. And of course I had the cheapest days I could find.. So the difference for both would be 500.00 crazy... Not gonna bother with that particular insurance again... BUT Dan spent the entire night in the suv..up until about 1 pm then we went for a drive to take care of last minet errand the kids had asked me to do...( Dan was a captive in the suv) but I had managed to nonchalantly give him his meds earlier ( pure luck ! as he had refused them the night before) but I had slipped him a " Mickey" a Valium... So he was mellowed but still stubborn, but I did finally get him to at least let me stay till WEDS... but I wouldn't believe it till he actually went into the house..and he did .. To the bathroom cleaned.up a little and to bed,,, still a crab,refused to eat but at least I wasnolding the ace... He was in a safe bed not a suv with his legs down with blood pooling into his legs..... I knew his INR was low 1.3 on weds.. Don't know why and the clinic had done some adjusting anticipating the flight... And I did further adjustments to compensate for his inactivity and position......the suv 16 hour sit in.... This morning when I got him to take his meds he I gave him a little more... Not a thing to play with I know but the clinic said error on the high side for him not the low..and he doesn't take high levels just it varies by day... so in short I had to manipulate my husband.... It worked this time... But Dan is pretty sly when he morphs into this guy.... And bless Sarah ... My Arizona gift, she was / is willing tobe whom ever I need her to be aka a travel agent saying there is a snow storm in ND and no planes are moving..or a DR. .. Have not had to avail on her kindness yet... It is so nicety know she understands and no offense taken by the I'll begotten attempt at the casino... Now here is the

Part of i don't know as much as ,I think I know... Kinda like a job ever notice how the longer you are at a job and see all the variables start to play out, you start to learn you maybe don't know as much as you think you know... And then you get to the point where you just get dumber the longer you work there.... When I worked corrections I learned this lesson, but then after about 5 years I learned the" continuum" the cycle of .how the overall place worked.... And I was getting so " knowledgeable " about Dan and his particular stroke... And yes I , just like each of us are the expert of our own stroke or your loved ones stroke... That remains true but what I learned is there is still so much more to learn and boomerangs can come and hit you in the back of the head.... Sarah is my ( our future in terms of caregiving) future... And she has been doing this for a longtime......and she is doing a great job.... She yanked me to my feet right through that phone and told me how it was. Gonna be... We had a contingency plan all worked out.. If Dan had not finally got it together... Well we are still here and Dan has eaten,drank and taken his meds and had a oops BM but he seemed ok ...at least his stomach is moving and we have sure been down the opposite road with that issue... So thank you everyone..... I only had two fingers on the edge of the ledge...