ok --- as i said before got the bid on the new home -- hooray. got the condo up for sale... got the condo staged for sale... -- have a girlfriend aha has always been there for me, have a grandchild ( born with MASSIVE brain damege ) that is dying, Dan is sick yet again... and i am down in cities ( mnpls) came to be with my girlfriend and hold her hand while she holds he childrens hands through this... so dan is home ( got out of hospital today) doing ok - so far... got a case management program set up for him... the clinic , the hospital, home health and my friend the doc are all on the same page... but our doc ( who has a Phd in chemistry and has been following dan - has picked up that dan has a virulant bladder infection and has for a long time ( go figure Mr. no drink) ... and he has a kidney stone churning somewhere elluding a scan, but the "chemicals " are there... this particular doc has never been wrong when it comes to dan... so i handed over the reins and left town.. and he is overseeing his care via home health ordres ect .. he will no longer go more than 48 hours with no hyderation -- he will be Iv'd if he does.. at home .. he is gonna have lots and lots of fluid pushed through him starting tomorrow --- flush , flush, and flush.... ad the doc -- if the kids or later when i get back home can call him and he will come to the house... so maybe we will finally get somewhere... and i forgot the most important part I got to see my grandaughter --- have not seen her for a long , long time... down here in the cities .... dans constant issues have kept me from seeing my lilly bird -- but not now , not today.. or tomorrow ... i got 2 days to be with my girlfriend when she needs me the most, as she was for me... and i get to see lilly... now if the DAN part of this equation works out even just for a little while -- i will feel blessed - even during this very , very sad time...