It's been months since I've posted anything, funny how time gets away from us. It was a very busy summer, had the grandkids alot of the time, which is a good thing.
In August, mom was pretty sick for a few days. It took the nurses 2 days to get a reply from the dr. She had a uti. I have switched doctors since then, by the way. After each series of the antibiotic, she still had the bacteria. She went through 3 different series of it. I finally requested that she be put on something prophalactically. So she now is on Macrobid once a day.
A couple of weeks ago, we had 2 wonderful weeks. She went to activities, stayed dry, I could understand most of what she said. Then all of a sudden, it all changed. Within one visit, actually. She was in a good mood when I got there that day and then her mood changed. The last half hour I was there, she cried and I couldn't understand what she was saying. I had to leave her while she was crying. That really broke my heart. Lately I just feel like what is the use. She is mad at me alot. She tries to tell me things and when I tell her I don't understand and try to help her to get it out, she just gets mad and says , "Yes, you do".
There was a big problem at the facility. There was a particular aide that was not very nice, I would say borderline abusive to the residents. Mom did not like her and mom likes all of the others. There were a couple other family members that saw this. I first went to the don and she really didn't do anything. Then I went to the administrator and he said there had been quite a few complaints. The aide was fired this past weekend. Hopefully this will made a difference.
I just feel so discouraged. Mom won't try to walk anymore and just wants to sit in her room. I try to take her out to the entrance where some of the residents and families gather and talk. She'll only sit there for a short time and then she wants to go. I don't take her for rides anymore, because every time I do she doesn't want to get out of the van. We did get to sit on the porch and feed the ducks a few times.
I still go every day and when I leave, I feel completely drained. I've almost given up trying to make progress with her, because she is done and she wants to die. I can't really say that I blame her. I will always go to see her, just feels hopeless some days.