Thanks for being my guinea pig ;-) That is what I fear, Ray and Dan have very similar temperments.

Hello Nancy, please do not pack up work, and do not let what is happening get out of hand with you and Dan. After my stroke, I was mad at my husband because he could go out, drive and I could not! I was never a selfish person, so me feeling like that was strange to me! As I got better, strated going on the free bus that took me to the adult center, where I made new friends, I saw that this was my "new normal". Also my husband make sure I haded my daughter around, with the grand kids, he take me out but he needed a break, I see that now.

Nancy, you are a great caregiver, and you need a break, you make sure Dan is okay and you go, he will be alright. Us stroke surviors go back to acting like Kids, and we be fine. The saying is "Once an adult twice a child"

Yvonne

Nancy: I am always amazed, even at this point in Stroke Recovery, at how little Bruce thinks of me at all. When I walk him through the process, he says "I know." Now that is response to everything, so he really doesn't know or care, he just wants me to be quiet - LOL. I do find, however, as time goes on, when I say to him "now, I have done all this for you today, what are you going to do for you today, to give me some time off? And I have to say it is finally working at times. I do this mostly on the weekends for some Sunday afternoon time for me.

Keep at it. You have a good game plan with some goals in mind. And good help at home for Dan's safety and some help for you. It is like anything stroke, takes a long time and stick to the routine. Remember to eat and get your exercise in with Tag - safely, LOL.

It may never be balanced. Dan is going to have his good and bad days. Only hope is the good finally outnumber the bad. Know I am in your corner and prayers. Debbie

Dan has gotten used to you being home not working so he is in the middle where he used to get all your attention and care all day and night... Now I imagine some times you get home tired out and not much energy left to satisfy him or his needs if you know what I mean?!!

My wife tells me middle of the week her energy level is low and she still has to make choir practice and Praise dance practice at church so I know then no sex for us!!!! She loves working as Supervisor at the bank and working with people and money so much so that she comes home feet hurting and body dragging!!

With you back working you will experience some of those real tired days or nights and Dan is saying to himself, wait a minute where is his time to be with you???