Nancy :

that's so awesome. I always feel you need two parents to raise kids well & father plays important role in kid's life. I am so thankful to my husband that he stayed by my side & great influence in raising our son well.

Asha

Thanks Nancy,

What a thrill it must have been for Dan to see this young man he hadn't seen for many years and I'm sure the young man felt great to see the man that helped him understand more about life!!

It's hard these days for any wife or father trying to raise kids without the other parent being in the home!!! A one parent home is the norm here at the military base where a mom or father got killed in the war!!!!

So special Nancy for you both and for the young man. Dan will remember this as one of the good times in his life. Hope you are feeling well.

Julie

He mentored a few young men- at the school he worked at - taught them about "fixing things" righty - tightly -- lefty- loosey -- type of things, how to change oil on a car , do minor plumbing repairs etc….. he was a person could fix most anything if he looked at it long enough….. I am glad for Dan's sake and the kids sake ( he was one of Dans favorites) that things all turned out --- this kid had no stability, and Dan had many -- "Knock that "sh-t off talks with him" and apparently it has paid off…. I think Dan was happy to know he made a difference … But this morning he barley remembers the kid being here…. he got the experience of seeing the kid but thanks to that wonderful loss of memory ( comes and goes) he does not get to relish it long….. odd he can remember things like the kids voice from pre stroke , but this morning the "visit" is sorta gone…

Nancy,

remember when we first came here I posted a blog about a letter I got from a girl thanking me for making a difference in her life? I felt great knowing I had made a difference. I was on cloud nine! Less than a week later the memory of it started to fade. But not how it made me feel. I'm not sure if how I felt was obvious to others because life went on and frustrations kept coming and I'm sure what was seen was my reaction to the frustration. But that earlier feeling was still there. Sometimes I would feel it stronger than others. Dan is more affected than me but I believe that somewhere inside of Dan he remembers--at least what's important.

that is a very nice story nancy and am glad dan got to understand the appreciation of this person to him. even if it didn't last too long. we all need those moments and they happen too infrequently. perhaps we need to tell those who influenced our lives of what they did for us! I am sure they would like it just a much as dan.

david

Nancy: so happy for Dan. These types of moments are so rare these days and good for that young man to think of Dan and visit him. The memory is there and hopefully will resurface on good days. Good and positive news. Debbie

I believe it will resurface on occassion - and if i were a better wife i would think take a picture to remind him??? to much always at once...

Nancy, you have a blog entry to remind you of this happening, one of the positives of keeping a blog. Glad this happened to Dan, it is so easy to think that the whole world has forgotten us and all we did that was special and part of our caring nature. Well, one young man has not forgotten that about Dan.

Sue - You nailed it -- I do feel the world has forgotten us -- sadly the norm in "stroke world" -- but so nice for Dan to get a glimpse of the past..

and the "future" he helped create … I guess that is why I blog so much since the stroke my memory is crap - and by writing it i can jog it.. i have a great long term but not so good short term.. depending of course … give something a year or two or three to hit my memory bank and it is there, but lunch heck i have no idea what i ate… I am told the brain prioritizes things automatically on a "important" need to know - so I won't as a rule forge a vital detail , but lunch who cares, peoples names who cares… not of it life threatning … so the brain won't catagorise it as " REMEMBER !!" so Dans meds - important, nancy's lunch - not so much, what year did i graduate - I don't know - my age I don't know -- truthfully those are not things that matter in stroke world --- you all understand .. and that is why i love you !! can some one tell me how old I am?? lol

I used to be able to figure out my age well, until the century flipped off to the 2000's. Now I feel like the old talking Barbie doll that all the feminest hate, that said, "Math's hard!"

I know exactly how Dan felt when he got this visit. It was like how Bob felt when he received his award for the global project he had done. It was like, "hey, something I did really lasted and they remembered I was the one that did it!" Still making a difference in the world, thru something they did, and seeing it in action.