AMY,

I FOUND OUT IT'S BETTER TO SWALLOW YOUR PRIDE SOMETIMES. I'M PRETTY FUNCTIONAL, BUT THERE ARE TIMES I'VE FOUND IT'S BETTER TO ASK OR JUST ACCEPT HELP. MY WIFE HAS UNDERTAKEN QUITE A BIT SINCE MY STROKE. IT SEEMS TO EASE HER MIND TOO IF SHE CAN HELP. IT BOTHERS ME THAT I CAN'T BE AS USEFUL AS I WAS, BUT I AM WHO I AM. SO BE IT.

MARTY

AMY,

I HATE IT TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WITH A PURPLE PASSION. FIND SOMEONE WHO LIKES IT AND YOU HAVE EITHER FOUND A MASOCHIST, OR AN IDIOT!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'M WITHYA SISTER!!

KIM

It can be a pain asking for help, but sometimes it is necessary. But, I have enjoyed continually adding to my list of things I don't do anymore.

Mow the lawn

Move furniture (that is large)

Major cleaning

Cleaning up glass off the floor when I drop something and break it.

Pumping gas (although I have done it in an emergency)

Washing the car.

Doing most of the gardening

Sewing (I have sown on buttons, but the outcome was not pretty)

Laundry most of the time (our washer and dryer are in the basement so I have to put the clothes in a clothes bag and throw down the stairs)

Physical computer repair

Etc

I figure is it ok to give up doing some things.

Amy:

what you talking girl that is positive side of stroke NO MORE HOME CHORES woohoo

there is funny story to my stroke, I was lazy bum before stroke also, I never minded sitting late in the office or cookin, but I hated doing laundry, vaccuming, cleaning dishes, so when my sister came to our house she was like when did you last used ur left hand in house chores except at work, and now u cry for it:D

look at the bright side honey

lots of love

Asha

Asha,

Thanks for your input on cleaning. That is something, that I used to enjoy. I now have the freedom of groceries, magically appearing in the fridge and cupboards every week. No more grocery shopping! I have done it post stroke though, I just got introuble for spending too much $$. I t wasn't my plan, but It has worked out to my advantage.

Dear Mrsamy,

Ihave had 2 strokes, one in 1987 when i was 44, i lost my entire right side,with work and rehab i was at speed about a year later.....not like i was before. Now 18years later i had another stroke in 2005. In this one i lost my abilityto swallow,part of my lungs, and general weakness of my entire body.about a month ago i was trying to put ths string in my weedeater and was quite like you i the frustration dept. i went from crying to laughing. A friend was over and heard me, and asked what was wrong.......Itold her that i was tired of working with the handicapped. We are never as good as before. Accepi what you are left with,dont take things too seriously,and enjoy what you can do. After 2 brainstem strokes i feel lucky to be alive. Iknow all strokes are different,someare much worse than others,just keepsmiling and things will get betterand enjoy life,best of luck.

Hoping things get better for You,

FGRobinson