We can only get through this the best way that we can. I can't possibly know what you are going through and vice versa but it is still done one day at a time. Although, at times it doesn't feel like it, we will make it through.

I had very dark days for the first few months. I begged, while crying, to my husband to just switch with me for a day - let me feel normal again, let me feel like I used to - then I could handle it just knowing that I could make it. I don't know if those days were harder on me or him. I know that he would have switched if he could.

You can make it. :hug:

Thanks Sherri..I would ABSOLUTELY switch in a heart beat. I'd throw myself in front of a train if I thought it would help her, but I know it won't...

Know in YOUR heart that YES, if we family/caregivers could make it better for you, we would... :hug:

And yes...I will make it...with everyone's help and support...!!!

""She is the one healing.""

I feel that ALL are doing the healing. Physically and mentally (sp? sorry, my stroke is in the speech area). I feel that the stroke hurts ALL and ALL have to do the healing.

One day at a time and try that tomorrow will be better. Try to keep a smile on all the time. It helps all.

Bill

Good point Bill...thanks...Yes, I am healing too, but in a different way. Perhaps I should say..."She is the one with the stroke."

Taking it one day at a time though, nonetheless...

I agree with Bill, Stroke does not happen to "one" it happens to the "family" In throws evryone for a loop. Survivors have to work at physical and mental recovery. But the loved ones, have to watch the struggle. I have been a caregiver in the past, to a son and husband. I know how painful it is to watch the struggle with illness, recovery. Neither one is easy. We are all participants in this journey.

As hard as recovery has been I can tell you it is easier than watching a loved one suffer.

I can agree with you in so many ways Bonnie but I'm sure as you were going through it, it didn't feel that way. And I know it doesn't feel that way for Jane either...at least not right now... I'm just trying to be mindful of that for her right now...

I agree stroke happens to the family, this is why the rejection from her bio family feels so miserable...they forgot I'm part of that family unit too and am also affected...

After having a stroke, we go through a change in our behaviour. I've done/doing to my family and friends. I'm going for a psyscologist to help me get over my "brain problems" that they said it can be fished. The "stroker", we feel we are all alone and nobody understands. I know over the time I need help my friends and family. I hope your partner gets that over it and understand she needs you. You need each other. My wife and I separated nut we are still great friends. I know she is there if I need her help.

Take it easy Robyn, turn your frown upside down

Bill

I am smiling today...I will blog about that later. I just feel better.

She is already getting the psychological help she needs and I trust in the person IMMENSELY!! She is also my friend and knows how much I love Jane even though I crossed a bit of a line a while ago crying on her shoulder thinking I could lean on HER for support. I know she will bring Jane back to the healthy person she was emotionally before all of this...I know that in my heart!!!

Thanks for sharing that Bill...I hope things can remain good and strong between you and your wife despite the separation.