Ann, there is help in all kinds of places. I have a plan for the day Mum dies, I can leave Ray at the Lodge for the day, they will book him in as a casual and take care of him for me while I do what I have to do if I need help. Most help comes from places you are already associated with: your church is a good place to start. Maybe among the A.A members there is a former aide or retired nurse who could help if you were desperate?

We have Federal Government funded national telephone service called the Carer Respite Service whose role is to supply instant help, they have long lists of nursing services etc who have nurses on call. It all comes at a price but allows for the survivor to be looked after while the caregiver is hospitalized etc and looks after him/her until other plans can be put into place. Maybe there is a state service for that where you live?

Some nursing homes or hostels will accept someone as a casual until such times as paperwork can be completed, I know one of the hostels run by the Salvation Army will do that.

You really have to call any place you think could help and if they can't ask them if they can suggest where else you would look to find the service. It can't be an official state secret surely?

Good luck with your search, ((hugs))) from Sue.