Tony: look at what you are saying: I want to be better now, and yet you know that is not going to happen, but your reaction is to change everything in your life right now. That isn't going to work either. Take it one day at a time. Clean out one room, sort by what you need and what can go. Do not tackle everything all in one week, you will regret it down the road. You need to adjust your lifestyle on a quarterly basis, not on a daily one. Yes, close quarters cause incredible stress, that is why we have a caregiver support area. We all are as frustrated as our survivor is. Don't throw in the towel and don't isolate yourself. Find a volunteer group that could use your help and try some community service, maybe reading to children at the library or storytelling. You probably have a local handicap access transportation service run by either your town or state, so you would not be dependent on others to take you. I keep the truck here for Bruce's caregivers to take him places, but keep in mind, I have to pay for those caregivers; so the community service is cheap, safe, reliable and goes to shopping, library, community pool on a daily basis. If you can get yourself in and out of the pool, consider that or walking at the shopping mall. Yes, you have too much time on your hands and that gets the brain crazy (I suffer from it myself and I am a caregiver), but us Type A's have to learn to adjust and we can, just takes some discipline and that we have. Think about it, Debbie

Tony:

hope today is better day for you. I agree with you material things don't define us as a person, but it does bring lot of comforts and satisfaction to life. I have found that after I lost my job due to stroke I struggled to find me again, during those difficult time I found volunteering at my son's school & at red cross brought satisfaction to quality to my life. I have found out that when you give you feel so much better about your life. when we look around even on this board there are so many people far worse off than you and you find you are still so blessed.

Asha

Tony: look at what you are saying: I want to be better now, and yet you know that is not going to happen, but your reaction is to change everything in your life right now. That isn't going to work either. Take it one day at a time. Clean out one room, sort by what you need and what can go. Do not tackle everything all in one week, you will regret it down the road. You need to adjust your lifestyle on a quarterly basis, not on a daily one. Yes, close quarters cause incredible stress, that is why we have a caregiver support area. We all are as frustrated as our survivor is. Don't throw in the towel and don't isolate yourself. Find a volunteer group that could use your help and try some community service, maybe reading to children at the library or storytelling. You probably have a local handicap access transportation service run by either your town or state, so you would not be dependent on others to take you. I keep the truck here for Bruce's caregivers to take him places, but keep in mind, I have to pay for those caregivers; so the community service is cheap, safe, reliable and goes to shopping, library, community pool on a daily basis. If you can get yourself in and out of the pool, consider that or walking at the shopping mall. Yes, you have too much time on your hands and that gets the brain crazy (I suffer from it myself and I am a caregiver), but us Type A's have to learn to adjust and we can, just takes some discipline and that we have. Think about it, Debbie

I always read all of the comments and process the advice. I love all the thoughtfulness. These are great ideas. Thank you.