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Dealing with vascular dementia


Debbyavery0

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We are in uncharted territory dealing with daddy's diagnosis of vascular dementia. At least all of his agitation and aggressiveness are gone. His memory is much better and he has cracked a few jokes. Still no tv, and he is still running lights off. Everything I've read about vascular dementia states it coincides with Alzheimer's. I am hoping the neurologist can shed some light on how severe he is. I am also hoping the psychiatrist can give mama a definitive diagnosis. I feel better knowing what I am dealing with. It is good to have daddy back at the apartment. His sisters have finally settled down and realized sending him to Geri pshyc was our only choice. I stayed home today with a bad headache. Brittany brought he baby over and I watched her while brett took Brittany out to eat. I am about to go to bed. Mope everyone has a great night.

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I didn't make it to work until Tuesday. Daddy seemed to do good taking his pills since I couldn't make it to the apartment due to ice. Mama did not do so well. She wound up with an extra pill left over each day. Their parking lot is still extremely icy and we are expecting more ice tonight. I lined their pills and food out just in case I can't make it over there tomorrow. Mama told me daddy told her he could take care of both of them at the farm if he didn't drive any further than jonesboro or Searcy. I keep hoping they will start participating in activities at the apartment. They won't even go to bible study. Brittany brought the baby by work today so I could keep her while she got released to go back to work from from the doctor. I took her over to mama and daddy's. Robbie was there and played with her. One more week and Robbie will be keeping her at the apartment on Monday, Wednesday and Friday. I am missing my little yorkie today. I have had a pretty bad case of the boo hoos.

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I am trying to do things differently for a bit. I only went to the apartment one time today. The rain was awful and I have had a migraine all day. I bought groceries for mama and daddy and us in the middle of the monsoon this morning. I bought stuff that doesn't need to be warmed up for meals. Mama and daddy were waiting for me in the lobby. Daddy came out and helped carry the groceries in. I ate lunch with them. Daddy seemed to be doing better than mama. They had already taken their pills. Mama wanted me to tell daddy where to get his glasses Monday instead of giving him a choice. I reminded them both of their eye doctor Monday. I asked daddy if he wanted to buy his glasses at the eye doctor or go to Success Vision Center. He said he wanted to go to the cheapest place. I will have to let Robbie know to take them Monday after their appointment. I filled up their pill planners for the next week. I told them I would not be coming back for the evening. I came back home and did some housework then took a nap. Mama called and asked me if they had taken their pills. Very concerning, I may need to go back over there twice a day. Mon a good note, they seem to be making some friends. I talked to my aunt today and she didn't give any caregiver criticism thank goodness.

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More bad weather on the way, yay! Mama and daddy are set for food just in case. Daddy has done very well with taking his meds, mama not so much. Daddy spent the day with his siblings today and had a really good time. He had just gotten back when I got over there. Mama said she had an upset stomach so she didn't go with them. Robbie and I think it was an excuse. She wanted to kick back and watch westerns. Neither one of them were hungry for supper when I got over there. I went ahead and gave mama her meds. I told daddy to take his after he ate. He told me about his day and seemed really happy. No talk lately about moving back to the farm. That is going to be an issue if it comes up again. They were having a mardi gra party at the apartment so they stayed in their room. So far, Robbie and I have been complete failures about getting them to socialize. Mama is searching for words again. Daddy is able to correct her and he is doing it in a nice manner. Daddy has been asking me if I want to talk to my daughter. He corrects himself and says my mom. Brett is taking them to the farm Thursday. I need some of their farming info for the guy that is going to farm their land. Farming is way more complicated than I thought. Fortunately, the guy at the usda has been patient with me I scanned all the poa paperwork and sent it to him. I would love to go ahead and move to the farm but I need to work a bit longer. I told Brett I would like to retire in January if we can work out health insurance. Fortunately, his new job seems to be working out. We could live in our camping trailer and mama and daddy in the house until we build. It will just be a long ways away from the babies. We have another one due in August. Say prayers that we can all get to and from work tomorrow. It was very icy this morning. I don't worry so much about my driving as that of everyone else.

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Overall, we had a good weekend. The 3 month old baby spent the night with me Friday night. Brittany brought her to my work Friday. I took her over to mama and daddy's. I took them Burger King for supper. Nether seem to love it when I do. I got home took care of all the puppies and then devoted my time to Miss Payton. She slept decent but got up a few times. Got up Saturday mornu and took Payton to mama and daddy's. Loaded them up and drove to cabot to see the other grandbaby. They seemed to have a really good day. I took them back to the apartment and headed home. A couple flew in from Texas to see the puppies and bought two. Brittany picked Payton up around 3 and I headed back to the apartment. I fixed a big pot of chicken and vegetable soup. Yesterday was church. Mama and daddy were waiting for me in the lobby. After church I ate lunch with them then went back home. I took a small nap then headed back over to the apartment. I warmed up soup for supper. Daddy was very quiet all weekend not sure what is going on with that. Mama is starting to get agitated again.

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I started feeling very overwhelmed Sunday. I am trying to get all of mama and daddy's tax information together. Mir is way complicated with a farm. I think I am almost done. I am just missing some info from one of their banks in Huntsville al. Apparently. They don't forward mail so we had to change the address. On top of that all the information for the usda is due. We have been trying to backtrack through daddy's records to see what his farm yields were from 2008-2012. Daddy's previo farmer died last year and no one can find his records. Finally got mama and daddy into see the dentist today. She said mamas teeth are starting to tighten up after the fall so she wouldn't recommend any sort of correction. Daddy has to go back, not sure what that is about. He said he didn't have a cavity. Wish I could take them to all their appointments but I am very fortunate that Robbie helps me so much. I have tried to get my house and mama and daddy's ready in case we have a winter storm tomorrow. I got their pill planners down to fill them and realized the pharmacy did not include all the pills in the bag. This is weird because I paid for all of them. Anyway, made another trip to the pharmacy and picked them all up. Daddy is really wanting to drive. We see the psychiao 3/31 so we will see how that goes. I seriously doubt they will say it is ok but you never know. He is doing worlds better I am just unsure of his critical thinking skills. Robbie started keeping the baby Monday over at mama and daddy's. I was a little apprehensive but I think it is going to give mama and daddy something to look forward to. Billy had to work late yesterday so I picked her up and brought her to my house. Brittany picked her up when she finished her 16 hour shift. I really enjoy keeping her, it is just hard right now with all the puppies. Hopefully, they will all be sold soon. Ten puppies are very hard to keep clean. Sadie has given up even trying. I am still in a quandary as to what to do about work. My goal right now is to make it until January. Anything after that is gravy.

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Today was a horrendous day travel wise. We gory 2 inches of ice with 6 inches of snow on top. I have to go to work no matter what. Brett drove me about 4 miles to meet a coworker. They had done nothing to any of the roads. The drive was a bit stressful. Personally, I would rather drive myself but brett said two people are better than one if you get stuck somewhere. Tomorrow may be fun because it is supposed to be 12 toni so it will all re freeze. Brett helped me today. He took mama and daddy's pills over to them. Mama needed her depression medicine. Anyway, she took the pills and put them on the table. She would not let him put them up. A bit concerning. I think she is getting worse. I have an appointment with the neurologist for her in June. Daddy has an appt with a psychiatrist march 31st. He is wanting to drive. I've is doing really good but his critical thinking skills need to be evaluated. Found out today we are working Saturday, yay. It is only for the people who didn't come in today unless your department isn't covered. My employee is headed to North Carolina so I may as well not be sad about it. Daddy seems to be enjoying keeping the baby at the apartment. I am hoping it will keep him from wanting to move back to the farm.

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Today was very busy. I kept the 3 month old grandbaby last night. I got up early to work on the house. A lady was supposed to come over at 4:30 to look at the puppies. Payton and I did a few errands then headed over to mama and daddy's. They had already taken their pills. I ate lunch with them then headed to Conway to meet up with Payton's mama. Daddy worried me a bit. He went to stand up then fell back into the chair. He sat for a minute then got up. This is not typical of daddy at all. He is normally in great physical shape. He is still very quiet. I guess he has always been quiet but now I notice it more. Mama keeps getting more and more unsteady. She still won't use her cane or walker. It really scares me. I don't know how to get her to use one of them. After meeting Brittany in Conway, I picked mama and daddy salads at chick fil a and headed back to the apartment. I visited for a bit and filled up their pill planners. I rushed back to the house and got the puppies ready for the lady to look at them. She never showed, very annoying. At least my house is a lot cleaner. Trying to decide whether to take mama and daddy to see Hayley tomorrow or go to church. The college choir is going to be there so I know the music will be extremely loud. Mama and daddy don't do that well.

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Today was a busy day. I took mama and daddy out to my sons house so they could see the 2 year old grandbaby. She was in rare form today so they laughed a lot. We left there and went to the grocery store. It is very sad to see mama in such poor physical condition, she is so feeble. We got their groceries and I got her loaded into the car. Daddy helped me take them in the door. Some lady blessed me out for blocking the entrance to the complex for less than five minutes. Mama was anxious to get a table so I put up all the cold stuff. She and daddy were sitting at separate tables. I guess they didn't see each other. I got them rounded up together and we had a nice lunch. Mama told me she was going to put the rest of the groceries away but sat down. I put everything away and ,ade daddy some coffee and mama some hot tea. I headed home and unloaded my groceries. Took care of the ten puppies. Thank goodness they are over 5 weeks old now. Three are presold. I was going to lay down a few minutes until the hubs got home from work. I woke up at 4:30 and he was asleep in his chair. Must have been more tired than I thought. Mama and daddy were eating the salads we bought for supper so I won't see them until tomorrow. Daddy is doing really good with taking his meds and he has been keeping mama on track. I feel less stress now that unjust about have mama and daddy's income stuff completed and with the cpa. I am waiting for their credit union info from redstone federal credit union, I scanned almost all of the supporting documentation Friday. All of their farming info has been submitted to the usda. I really like the guy farming their land. I think I am going to wait a couple of weeks before doing another all nighters with the baby. I don't seem to have as much energy as I used to.

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I am very tired today. We were short handed at work so I tried to do two jobs. I must say I was not very successful but I at least kept lines running. I got to the apartment around 3:45 this afternoon. I was going to visit with mama and daddy but my cousin came by and I really hoped he would be able to engage daddy in reloading conversation. Robbie helped me load the baby up and put her in my car. I ran home and brett was cleaning puppies up. The first one should be leaving Friday for her new home. I am stepping up my advertising. I started supper and drove to mayflower about 25 miles away to meet my son in law with the baby. Brittany doesn't get off til 10 tonight. This is the first of her 16 hour shifts this week. I got home around 6:30 and have tried to relax since then. Brett and I discussed the fact that we think mama is going to fall and break something. I bought her a cane and walker but she won't use them. I don't know what to do about it. Daddy is doing far better than mama right now but he is extremely quiet.

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Thank goodness I made it through the day without missing work. My migraines have really kicked in today. I am on my second max all. I have 13 days until our big audit. We are very busy so it makes it difficult to get everything done.today is Robbie's birthday so I stopp at Tropical Smoothie n got turkey bacon ranch sandwiches with chips and cookies. I think it tickled her. I played with Payton until Brittany got there to pick her up. Daddy and I took a good brisk walk. He seems a little more feeble to me lately. I asked him if he was ok with Payton staying with them 3 days a week. He seemed really glad for her to be there. I asked him if he was ok staying at the apartment for awhile longer and he said yes, he said he plans to talk to the psychiatrist on the 31st about driving. He wants to drive his truck to the apartment. He seems so much better I am just not sure about his critical thinking skills. The hubs n I are going to rent a house sometime in June on greers ferry lake. All the kids plus mama and daddy will be going. No dogs this trip. This may be an expensive weekend. Mama kept tryptophan poke food down us tonight. I looked and one of her ankles is really swollen. May have to take her back to the doctor

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I have been super busy this week. My sqf audit at work is 3/24-26 so I have been super busy and a bit stressed. This is my project so I will be so glad when it is over. I have sold three puppies since last night, seven more to go. I picked the baby up at the apartment yesterday and brought her home. She spent the night with us last night. No got up this morning, did some housework then took the little one to a garage sale. We then ran over to see mama and daddy. Daddy seems to be doing well, mama not so much. She is worried about this coming week. Robbie has agreed to keep my 2 year old granddaughter on Tuesday and Thursday this coming week. My sons grandmother in law is having a knee replacement Monday and the little one usually stays with her on ties and Thursday. I can tell mamas disease is kicking in more and more. Daddy seems excited about keeping Hayley. She has a wonderful personality. Brittany picked up the baby song went back over to mama and daddy's. I made stir fry and got their pills ready for next week. They are doing decent at taking them on their own. Daddy is doing better than mama. I read them their devotion and asked daddy how he was sleeping. Meh said he was feeling great. He has been going out and filling up the bird feeder. He and mama have been sitting out in the lobby more and more, I really hope they make friends there. Mi am just thankful they are doing as well as they are. I told them we rented a house on the lake for daddy's 82nd birthday. New are taking both boats so everyone can ski. It is just a mini getaway but it will be fun. Po am not excited about sleeping on an air mattress but the four bedroom house was already booked. I am really praying for grace and patience. Dealing with dementia is very hard. My support group is small but very helpful. My son has started going over to check on mama and daddy when I can't get over there. The hubs is doing better about being critical. I think he finally understands that they are doing the best they can. He has been very helpful lately. He is taking them for their eye doctor appointments Thursday.

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Today was a good day. The hubs worked all day. I got ready and did mama and daddy's grocery shopping before church. Got to church and realized I forgot to tape the basketball game at noon. One of my aunts had just gotten there so she helped mama into church. I ran home taped the game and made it back to church only 5 minutes late. All of daddy's siblin were there including some of my cousins. My cousin Sharon sang a beautiful song for daddy. We all went out to eat after church, it was really nice. Mama was getting tired so I took here back to the apartment. Daddy stayed and visited. I got my grocery shopping done and sold another puppy,yay! Now just six to go. I got a few chores around the house done and watched some tv. I need to star reading again but I just haven't been able to get into it since daddy got sick. All the dogs are fed and pottied. I am about to give it up. Three thirty comes really early.

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Today did not start out the best. Mama got confused and called at 2:30 this morning. It really scared me so I couldn't go back to sleep. The hubs got pretty upset and in a bad mood because he couldn't go back to sleep either. I told him I can't turn the phone off in case she needs me. Daddy health seems to deteriorate over night and she panics when she can't get me. I told him I can sleep in the other room but he didn't like that idea at all. Mama called back at 5 am. She remembered calling me earlier and said she looked at the clock wrong. I worked very hard today trying to get ready for the audit next week. I still have a really bad headache. I stared having bad chest pains in the break room and had to take a verapamil. Checked my blood pressure and it was decent, maybe a little high. According to the cardiolgist it is all related to the crazy vascular disorder. After work I went to the apartment, checked on mama and daddy and got the baby. Robbie looked worn out. I am compensating her well financially and she is worth every penny. Forgot to mention mama and daddy went to exercise class this morning. Daddy said he wasn't going back. Mama said she couldn't concentrate. I hope she goes back. Brought the baby home for a bit waiting on Billy to get off work. What a cutie, she was smiling so sweet. Met billy in mayflower with the baby at 5:30. Messed up and thought I locked hunter up when I left the house. Apparently I locked midnight up and hunter had a field day destroying everything in sight. Brett was not tickled at all when he opened the front door. At least he had it pretty much cleaned up before I got home. Sold another puppy, now just 5 to go. They are so cute but their poop is getting huge. Hard to keep them clean. I am about to take a pain pill for my head, max all is just not cutting it today.

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Today was a good day except I still haven't gotten rid of the headache. Brett has one too. It must be the front coming in tonight. Mama seemed better today. My 2 yr old granddaughter stayed with Robbie at the apartment. They seemed to really enjoy her. Mama is so afraid someone is going to complain about the kids being there and they will be evicted. I tried to explain that I already got it okay end with management. I got over there around 4. Daddy and I took Hayley for a walk in her car. He asked me if mama is still on her alzheimers meds. I told him yes. He said he felt like it was helping. It is helping but I can tell it is getting worse. Got home n the hubs had grilled steaks. Mi have everything ready for tomorrow so I am about to go to bed. I am truly amazed at how well daddy is doing.

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I woke up with a horrible headache this morning. I got ready and went back to bed. I didn't go to work until 10:30. I picked mama and daddy up Burger King for supper. That is their once a week treat. Briitanys was there feeding the baby when I got there. Mama is definitely getting worse. I put the food on the table and she came and sat down with Brittany and me. I had to remind her to go eat. She brought me her pill planner because she didn't think it was right. She was on the wrong day. Daddy seems to be doing well with his pills. The only weird thing he is still doing is leaving the lights and tv off.

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Brett took mama and daddy to the eye doctor today. They both got a good checkup and new glasses. They went out to eat at go,den corral. Mama had a few issues with almost falling. I asked her to take her cane but she said she couldn't with her purse and coat. Daddy still seems to be doing good but he is still very quiet. His eyes had not changed at all since the last time he had an eye exam. He went ahead and got new glasses because his were so scratched. They weren't hungr when I went by to see them so I just visited for awhile. My head felt better until around 2 this afternoon and my headache is back with a vengeance. Brett did good with mama and daddy today. I was a bit worried that he would get really frustrated with mama. I haven't sold anymore puppies but one of the presolds will be picked up Satuday. I am so ready. They are precious but their appetizing poop are getting bigger.

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It is the weirdest thing. Daddy has been extremely hard of hearing for years. After his stroke his hearing was great but his mental condition was terrible. As he has gotten better, he is once again very hard of hearing. I didn't get to see mama and daddy until this afternoon. I got called into work at 1:30 Friday morning. I worked 8 hours then went home and took a nap. I headed over to the apartment to pick up the baby. Robbie was checking daddy's bp and sugar, they were both good. They weren't hungry and told me they were going to have leftovers for supper. I took the baby home. The hubs didn't get home from work until around 6. He played with the baby while I got supper together. I got her to sleep then started taking care of puppies. I went to bed around 9. I got up at 12:30 to feed the baby. I think she would have made it the rest of the night but the dogs whining to go outside woke her up. She and I went to a few garage sales this morning after the hubs went to work. Go figure, he was out of work for months and now he seems to be working all the time. Three puppies left to go to their new forever homes this morning. Brittany came by to see the baby then headed out to do her grocery shopping. She put a photo book together of the baby for my birthday. It is beautiful.and almost made me cry. Brittany and the baby left around 3:30 and I headed over to the apartment. I was too pooped to cook so I picked up Zaxby's salads. I read the devotion while mama and daddy ate. I put a weeks worth of pills in their planners. Daddy and I went to the grocery store, mama didn't want to go. He seems to be doing really well. His memory is very good. Now I am at home chilling. Fixed a pizza for supper. Cleaned and fed the remaining four puppies and took care of all the 4 legged babies. I am tired but I feel like things are going fairly well right now. I am really working on taking things a day at a time rather than worrying about tomorrow.

 

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It was a nasty rainy day. I took mama and daddy to church this morning then ate lunch at the apartment. The hubs was on standby for work so he didn't get to go. Mama physically jerked three times during church. She seems to be declining a bit more every week. On the other hand, daddy seems to be doing very well. His memory is returning. He is able to reason. He seems to still be doing very well on the anti psychotic drug. He wants to drive so bad. I told him to ask on the 31st if there is a cognitive test he can take to test his driving abilities.

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Day one of my audit is over, thank goodness. My migraine is back. Had the doctor call in meds. Have to be at work to meet the auditor at 5:30 in the morning. I didn't make it by to see mama and daddy because I got off late. Robbie spent the entire day with them because Jeremy dropped Hayley off while he put up a fence. Mama called this morning at 5. Her worrying is really bad right now. I am debating seeing if they can put her on something else. I told her Robbie would take the baby to her house if her crying was bothering them. Robbie told me she is afraid they are going to get evicted from the apartment because the baby is crying. I explained to her that the manager knows they are keeping the baby. He okay end it. I thought the baby might help give them a purpose but I am not sure anymore. She is definitely helping daddy. I can see a positive difference in him. He can rattle off their social security numbers like he did before the stroke. I am kicked back relaxing. I really need to get up and get busy but don't seem motivated.

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My audit is over, we got a 98 out of 100 yay! Maybe my headache will finally go away. I have taken two max altos so far today. I got a lot of sweet birthday wishes. Mama remembered to call and wish me a happy birthday. Daddy never said anything. He was helping Brittany take all the baby stuff to the car. I got to hold and kiss the baby a little bit. I fixed hot ham and cheese sandwiches along with rice pudding. Daddy and I sat outside and enjoyed the nice weather. He asked me the name of the doctor he is going to see Tuesday. I cleaned up their kitchen and headed home. Talked to Robbie and she was upset with my aunts. Two of them dropped in today n the youngest one started in asking daddy when he was going back home. Apparently, she would not let it drop. Mama said they couldn't go home because they couldn't drive. Then she started in saying not to let "them" tell him he couldn't drive. She said there is nothing wrong with him. Ugh, I want to clunk her over the head. I don't know what she is trying to do. We go to the psychiatrist Monday for evaluation. We will see what she has to say. My aunt made some comment to mama that she will probably never drive again. I am surprised Robbie held her tongue but she did. I got home, took care of dogs and the hubs and I went out to eat. It was nice and relaxing. We are back home, just let the dogs back out and I don't think I am motivated to do much more tonight.

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I have been very tired today. Not sure if I am coming down with something or what. Work was decent. I worked on getting caught back up after the audit. I left work and headed over to the apartment to relieve Robbie. She kept Hayley today. I think all the babysitting is helping mama and daddy. Robbie said daddy is really wanting to drive. I can thank my aunt for continuing to put ideas into his head. I really don't know how to stop it other than banning her from seeing him. I think that would just open more problems. I cooked mama and daddy supper and played with Hayley. Daddy and I took her walking. She was so cute. I Blessed the food standing up which is apparently a no no. She told me to sit down and folded her little hands. Ms he cut her eyes over at me do I folded my hands too and blessed the food again. Her mama came and picked her up. I made sure mama and daddy took their pills sp, cleaned up the kitchen and left, I got home n the hubs grilled steaks. I only work a half day tomorrow, yay!

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I only had to work 1/2 day today, yay! Brett and I went to David's burgers for lunch. We went to an estate sale then grocery shopping. I talked to Robbie several times today. Mama had a bad day. She burned the pumpkin pie she was making for the party tomorrow. She is finally enjoying the little ones. She has been very forgetful today. I sent my aunt a text telling her we are going to the doctor Tuesday to request daddy gets his driving privileges back.. I told her as of right now his insurance will not cover his driving until that comes off his record. I told her we did not want anyone talking to him about driving just in case this does not work out. I haven't heard back from her. I am trying to be nice but her interference is really causing me issues. I made plenty of food for mama and daddy last night. Iicked up the baby and came home. Her daddy is pretty sick so she will spend the night with us again. We have a big family party

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Well,little bit didn't sleep the best last night so neither did Mimi. I got to give her a bath this morning for the first time, so sweet. She just smiled and kicked her little legs. I had planned to go garage selling but it was too cold and wet to get her out. Got a message back from my aunt. She told me daddy was saner than her and me put together. She asked me to please not say anything to the doctor to keep daddy from driving. She doesn't understand why he can't drive. She says there is nothing wrong with him. I am going toncontinue to pray about this. I know they are having a hard time dealing with daddy's illness but they are not helping. The baby and I got over to the apartment around 11. She and I sat with mama and daddy while they ate lunch. We visited for a bit then headed out to Jeremy and Layla's house. We had an awesome birthday feast and found out the new baby is a girl. Pretty excited. I enjoyed playing with the 2 year old grandbaby. The hubs 95 year old grandmother was there and seemed to have a great time. I feel bad that brett is estranged from his mom but have too much on my plate to worry about it right now. Mama is not getting around well at all. I had a hard time getting her in and out of my car. My back is really sore but that may have been from wagging the baby around in her car seat. Daddy seems to be doing good but he called mama my daughter. This is not the first time he has done that. I am very thankful that Robbie and her daughter were able to spend the day with us today. Our family is getting bigger.

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Small victory today. Mama took her cane walking. She didn't use it anywhere else but at least that was something. My back will be happy. I take daddy to the psychiatrist tomorrow for help with his meds. We are going to ask if he can drive short distances. I am not sure how this is going to end. He is really excited. I hope he isn't dissapointed. The aunts are still mad at me. Oh well. It gives them something to gossip about. I am still missing a couple of forms for mama and daddy's income taxes. Mama and daddy did good on their pills today.

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New doctor, new diagnosis. Dr kahn wanted daddy to see a psychiatrist at uams. I took off work early to take him to his appointment. The doctor was running 1 1/2 hrs behind, lovely. We saw a student doctor first. She did some comprehensive tests and he did very well. The doctor came in and asked a lot of questions. She did more comprehensive testing. She said he scored well. We talked about daddy driving short distances. She is setting him up to be tested for driving at big baptist. I don't know if it is a good idea but I don't want to be the one to tell him he can't drive. She feels like he never had a stroke. She believes the low Na, pneumonia and high sugar was a perfect storm to make him delusional. She said some people get ok quickly, some take a long time and others never recover. The longer it takes the patient to recover, the more long term health issues they have. This makes sense but I just don't know anymore. She wants him back in 3 months then she wants to cut his anti psychotic drug in half. I am apprehensive he will revert back. After we left he and I had a long talk. We talked about mamas condition and the fact that she is deteriorating rapidly. We talked about whether they wanted to stay at the apartment or go back to the farm. He agreed to stay at the apartment until at least August. He feels they are helping the kids by keeping the little ones with Robbie. He seemed really upbeat. He still won't read a book or watch much tv. He still keeps most of the lights off. At the farm all the lights are on. Robbie called and said mama almost fell 3 times this afternoon. I am afraid she is going to fall and break something. Talked to one of the aunts, she was decent. She told me my mom told her she wanted to move back to the farm. I told her ,a a only indicated she wanted to stay at the apartment. I told her they are staying until August then we will decide what to do after that time. Hopefully, they will let up on me. I don't want to be ugly but I want them to stay out of my business. So I have mixed emotions tonight. I am thankful daddy is doing as well as he is but I am super sad mama is doing worse.

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