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Dealing with vascular dementia


Debbyavery0

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We are in uncharted territory dealing with daddy's diagnosis of vascular dementia. At least all of his agitation and aggressiveness are gone. His memory is much better and he has cracked a few jokes. Still no tv, and he is still running lights off. Everything I've read about vascular dementia states it coincides with Alzheimer's. I am hoping the neurologist can shed some light on how severe he is. I am also hoping the psychiatrist can give mama a definitive diagnosis. I feel better knowing what I am dealing with. It is good to have daddy back at the apartment. His sisters have finally settled down and realized sending him to Geri pshyc was our only choice. I stayed home today with a bad headache. Brittany brought he baby over and I watched her while brett took Brittany out to eat. I am about to go to bed. Mope everyone has a great night.

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Daddy still seems to be doing well. Mama not so much. She took two days worth of pills between yesterday and today. The buddy system is not working. I am going to hide her pills starting tomorrow. This is incredibly sad. Apparently, my dil asked Robbie to keep Hayley Friday. I don't think mama can handle both kids. I told Robbie just to keep them at her house. I hate it for daddy because he really enjoys playing with them. The man from south arkansas came to pick up his puppy. If he hadn't already paid a deposit I would not have let him take herr. He had a horrible case of body odor and made the statement that he would buy one from us again if something happened to her. I let hunter in the house to check him out and hunter went right to him. Dogs are usually better judges of character than humans. Three puppies to go. I have had two people back out after they committed. I guess I am a little down today. I may go to bed early. I think I am just really tired.

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Robbie kept both kids at the apartment yesterday. Mama changed her mind and wanted them to come to the apartment. It seemed to work out really well. The children are definitely making daddy better. Mama had a couple of episodes of asking where the baby was when she was sitting right beside her. They ate leftover Zaxby's salads for supper. Inpicked up the baby and headed for home. I didn't keep her last night because I had an early vet appointment this morning. I slept like the dead. I did not wake up until I heard the dogs crying to go out at 3 this morning. I took the remaining three puppies to the vet this morning for their 9 weeks shots. They ranged in weight from 17.6-22lbs. They are ready to be re homed. I went garage selling for a little bit. It was really nice just to be by myself. I found a few things for the baby. I headed over to mama and daddy's to go grocery shopping. I encouraged mama to use her cane which she did. We let her push a grocery cart for stability. We got groceries for our easter lunch tomorrow. Hopefully, all the kids can come over. Mama and daddy were really upbeat. I bought them a lightweight vacuum cleaner for touch ups bectween the maid coming in. Daddy put it together and hung a picture I have been trying to get hung for months. He is really doing well. I got their pills together for the week. Daddy is really watching mama to make sure she takes her pills when she is supposed to. I came home did a little house cleaning and took a short nap. The Weimaraner's are all playing out in the yard. I put the girls easter baskets together. They turned out really well. Daddy is really stepping up with mamas care. I don't guess we will ever know for sure what happened to him September 4th of last year. I just pray it never happens again.

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I hope everyone had a great Easter. The hubs got off work today so we were both able to go to church with mama and daddy. The kids all came over to mama and daddy's after church. Daddy seemed to really enjoy himself. Mama did too but she had some issues. She asked me where daddy was and he was sitting right beside her. We had quite the spread for lunch and I did very little cooking. I'm really enjoyed seeing the little ones with their easter baskets. Both of them were very sleepy. I am sure they both fell asleep on their way home. We hid eggs for Hayley. Brett kept stealing her eggs, bad poppy. This is awful, I enjoyed not spending easter with Brett's family this year. Way too much drama. Brett decided he was not doing any family functions with his mom until she starts acknowledging our daughter and granddaughter. I am going to keep praying about this situation.

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Stayed home from work today. I had bad chest pains and an even worse headache. I know the chest pains are not a heart attack because they never vary in intensity. It just really hurts to breathe. I didn't tell mama I didn't go to work because she would just worry. My chest feels better but my head is still really hurting. Mama is on day two of increased depression meds. Robbie said she can see a difference. I can't yet. Robbie said daddy is doing great except still no lights or tv. He is still not reading. They are excited about our trip to the farm Saturday. Daddy keeps asking if I have heard from the driving evaluation at baptist. I have not, left another message today. Perked myself up enough at 3:30 to go pick the baby up. Her daddy picked her up at 6:15. Two ladies from hope ar picked up the third to last puppy. They were an interesting group, hog hunters. Maybe my puppy will be on tv. I am ready for them all to be gone. Some people from Okc are picking one up Saturday so I will only have one left. I am ready to get back to normal.

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I worked today but still had a bad headache. I was extremely busy at work. I paid mama and daddy's bills on break. Still no word on daddy's driving evaluation. I got to the apartment in plenty of time to see Hayley. I fixed mama and daddy supper then took her outside to play with her. Robbie said mama got extremely upset that daddy was talking to some women today. She is getting increasingly paranoid. Of course, it didn't help that daddy asked Robbie to marry him when he was so confused. I asked daddy if we needed to stop having the children come over. He said no he really enjoyed them. Daddy and I sat out on the patio after Hayley left. Mama went back inside. She was quizzing me about what we were talking about. I came on home and started taking care of dragons. I am down to two and one is supposed to go Saturday. I am ready to be as normal as possible. I am just so thankful daddy is doing so well.

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I ran by the apartment and fixed supper while playing with Hayley. She is an energetic little thing. Mama messed on herself. She cleaned herself up, I worked on the bathroom. Daddy said she is pretty agitated. I did a little cleaning in the apartment after Kayla picked Hayley up. I made it home before the storm started. I sent Uams another email about the driving exam. Daddy Is wanting to drive really bad. I got all the dogs taken care of before it started raining. I am so thankful daddy is doing as well as he is. I am just a little paranoid it will happen again.

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I got daddy's driving test set up for May 5th at 2:30PM.  I am taking off work to take him.  He is pretty excited, I hope he isn't disappointed.  We got up this morning and headed to McCrory.  We met up with a group of mama and daddy's friends at his favorite restaurant.  He and mama seemed to have a wonderful time.  We went to the farm and worked most of the day.  Mama is really going downhill.  She couldn't even put sheets on the bed.  She could prior to daddy's stroke in September.  She told me she thought she was doing better.  I just agreed with her.  Daddy is definitely doing better.  He is still not completely back to the way he was but so much better.  He wanted to have keys made to the farm so we stopped and got an extra set.  He saw someone he knew at the post office and he visited for awhile. He told me how bad that person looked and he hoped he didn't look that bad.  I told him he looks great, which he does.  We picked up subway sandwiches and headed back to the farm.  I noticed some things still aren't quite right.  He had trouble opening a paper sack that was stapled together.  There were a few other things I noticed.  He was able to park the truck in the shop and it is a tight squeeze.  I think all in all it was a good day.

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We missed church today because I had someone drive from okc and pick up puppy #9 this morn. Now, just one to go. I did a little shopping then picked mama and daddy up to go grocery shopping. I talked mama into using her cane. She is getting more and more feeble. I had her push one cart and daddy push the other. I am so afraid she is going to fall. She won't use a motorized scooter at the store. Daddy was very quiet today. His sugar was pretty decent but I am concerned about his weight. I may have to give him some oasis tomorrow. He is borderline right now with weight gain. I helped daddy carry the groceries in. I didn't put them away because I had ice cream in the car. I got a lot done around the house today. Hopefully, the puppy will let us sleep tonight, it is always rough when there is one left.

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Today was very busy at work. It was really raining when I got off. I picked up salads for mama and daddy's supper. I found out mama fell in the pantry today and could not get up. Daddy had to get her up. I am just thankful she didn't hurt herself. She is getting more and more off balance. She is becoming very rigid which I understand goes with Lewy bodies disease. For the most part, daddy continues to improve. The lights and TV were off when I got to the apartment but daddy, Robbie and the baby were sitting outside. Mama was sitting inside in the dark by herself. I picked the baby up and headed for home. Thank goodness the hubs had already made burgers so I didn't have to cook. Played with the baby, pottied and fed the dogs. I headed out to Mayflower to meet billy with the baby. Traffic was awful, took me 1 hour and 15 min round trip. I am now kicked back and relaxing. Tomorrow is going to be another busy day.

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Robbie organized the pantry trying to keep mama from falling again. It looks great but I doubt it will stay that way. It was very dark in the apartment when I got over there this afternoon. Hayley didn't stay with mama, daddy and Robbie today so Robbie left at noon. Mama and daddy ate the remainder of their salads today plus I made ham and cheese sandwiches and a bowl of fruit. I read the devotion while hey we're eating. They were both very quiet this evening. I stopped by the flea market on my way home and loaded up some stuff. I have to be out by the 30th. I am going to donate most of the stuff to charity. I still have one puppy, hopefully it will sell soon.

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Major step today, I got daddy to cook rice in the rice cooker. This is the first time he cooked since 9/4/15. It was good too. Mama was comparing her credit union statements and we realized she is missing about $8000 in one of her accounts in Huntsville al. She and daddy are the only ones with access to those accounts so I smell something fishy. Mama wants to take care of it herself, I hope she can. If not, I am going to use my poa to get some answers. I finally got on the alzheimers message board and got some helpful info for mama. Apparently, my aunts are not in agreement to my dads long term care. One sister thinks he and mama should stay here where I can take care of them. The other two sisters think he and mama should move back to the farm. I personally wish they would keep their opinions to themselves. They don't help in the daily care.

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Today was hectic for me. My coworker is in Florida so I am doing her job and mine. I keep telling myself just one more day. It does make the day go faster. I was a bit concerned today. Robbie had to go to the dentist. She said she shouldn't be gone more than an hour but the appointment lasted 3 hours. Hayley was staying with them so she stayed by herself with mama and daddy for three hours. She is an active 2 year old. It just scared me that she might get away from mama and daddy. Fortunately, Hayley was fine. I played with her until her mama picked her up. I warmed up supper for mama and daddy. Mama wanted to talk about finances. She was actually making sense. Then in the next breath she asked where daddy was and he was right beside her. I got home, pottied dogs and grilled steaks and chicken. The hubs is out mowing a sweet little old lady's yard. I found out my friend died Easter and I didn't even know it. I have become so disconnected.

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I kept the baby last night. She did pretty good. She only woke up twice. I was actually able to get some housework done with her here. I sold the last puppy, thank goodness. He seemed happy but he knows her because she works at the vets office. I ran over to mama and daddy's and cooked supper. They must have been hungry because they sat at the table the hole time I was cooking. Daddy is sitting out on the patio more. Mama is watching more TV. I left there, picked the hubs up and went out to eat. We got back to the house and did chores. I gave dog baths and worked on laundry. I didn't get as much accomplished as I wanted to but I made progress.

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I got up and did a few things at the house, got ready and headed to Walmart. The hubs had to work today. I picked up salads for mama and daddy. This will give them supper tonight and tomorrow night. I headed over to the apartment and took them to church. We ate lunch at the apartment dining room. We headed to krogers to get groceries. Daddy did very well, mama not so much. She is losing more and more of her concentration. I found a Lewy body website through alzheimers.com. It helped me understand a lot. Mama just called and said her pills are messed up and she didn't do it. She said the Sunday pills are all gone. She said daddy found pills on the floor and put them in Tuesday's slot. I told her not to take any more pills, I will look at them tomorrow.

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I am afraid we have messed up. I'm printed up some information for daddy on Lewy body dementia and asked him to make sure mama did not read it. I don't know if he gave it to her nut somehow she read it. She asked me if it was her diagnosis or daddy's. I told her it was hers. She asked me if her meds were for this problem and I said yes. I tried to focus on the physical issues with Lewy body rather than the dementia part. She asked me about walking. I told her it was very good for her to walk just to be careful not to fall. I asked her about her word finds and she said she started back on them today. In the next breath she asked if they could stay at the apartment. I told her I didn't see why not. I'm asked her if she had talked to daddy about it. She said she told him she could not cope at the farm and she said he told her he could. I'm am thinking great, I really hope he doesn't get a wild hair to move right now. He can't even drive yet. I am not quite ready to retire and move there yet plus I enjoy helping with the grand babies. I am going to pray about this tonight and not stress. Easier said than done.

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Daddy has been acting depressed since mama fell last Friday. I bought him an iPad for his birthday. He was plopped out on the patio playing on it when I left. Mama said the melds were making her jerk. I noticed it the other day so I will email dr. Kahn about it. I ordered a book tonight for caregivers of patients with Lewy body disease. I am anxious to get it. I worked on cleaning out our flea market booth after I left mama and daddy's. I only have 9 days left to get everything out.

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Both daddy and mama were chipper today. Mama went to exercise class on her own this morning and she exercised 2 other times. She may be really sore tomorrow. Daddy and I worked on his iPad. At will install his wireless modem tomorrow. I printed a copy of the user guide for him. I really hope he uses it. He was always on the computer at the farm. I hope mama continues with the exercise. It will do her a lot of good.

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I have had a monster headache today. I didn't think I would make it all day at work but somehow I did. Mama has decided her cataracts are causing her to fall. She wants to set up cataract surgery. I have a doctors appt for her Monday to talk about the falls and jerking movements. She got upset at Robbie for writing her doctors appt on the calendar. Mama carried it with her the rest of the day. She told me she didn't think they needed Robbie. Oh my, they really do. Daddy seems to be really enjoying his iPad. I had his wireless internet hooked up today. He is doing much better with mama. So far, his sisters have been leaving me alone.

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I left work today after 2 hours, horrible headache. Apparently two hours after I left they got slammed with large hail. That is probably why I felt so bad. I slept all day. I got up around 2:30 and fixed mama and daddy some stir fry. I left the house around 3 dropped off the food and picked up the baby. Robbie and daddy said mama was having a decent day. She is still having difficulty locking and unlocking the door. She has also become cod about exercising. She is now going to exercise class every morning. Robbie said daddy had a good day but he is still turning out all the lights. I don't know why he is doing that. The apartment is dark during the day with no lights. He is really enjoying watching the birds and squirrels eating from the bird feeder. He has his chair turned so he can see them. Brett is off in the morning so he and I are going out to our sons house to play with the two year old grandbaby. We are going out to eat then he will have to head to work. The son in law picked the baby up I am going to miss my little snuggle bunny tonight.

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I haven't posted in a few days. Ni broke daddy's iPad so we had mine while I got his fixed. He continues to improve. Mama is doing somewhat better physically since she has been going to exercise class at the apartment. She is still feeble but seems somewhat better. Brett and I took mama and daddy to the farm yesterday. Brett mowed and I dug up weeds. Mama and daddy piddled but seemed to enjoy themselves. We brought daddy's truck back to the apartment. He goes for his driving evaluation Tuesday. I kept the baby last night. She woke me up at 3:45 this morning spitting. She is almost 5 months old. Her mom and dad met us at church this morning. We all ate lunch with mama and daddy at the apartment.

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Tomorrow is the big day. Madden goes for his driving evaluation. I think I am just as nervous as he is. I am kind of pooped tonight. I got stuck in traffic dropping the baby off in mayflower. I got home and paid mama and daddy's bills. I need to seriously consider paying them online. I have held put just in case they are able to take over again. They don't do the online bill pay thing.

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Woo boo, daddy got his driving privileges back today. He was so nervous. I was more nervous than when my kids took their driving test. This has been quite a journey. I am a little scared about him driving, but he is really doing well right now. It should help give me a break some. I'm just hope he doesn't go crazy venturing out.

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Today was a bit stressful. My coworker called in so I had to do her job and mine. Disaster struck around 1 pm. I had to put 4 skids of finished goods on hold and the truck was waiting to pick them up. I could tell the plant manager was mad but I walked him through my decision to put them on hold. I wound up working over helping sort through cases. We finally got enough skids ready to send out on the truck. I left wok and ran a couple of errands. I made it to mama and daddy's in time to spend a few minutes with the baby. I fixed mama and daddy supper then ran by the pharmacy. I have a ton of things I need to do around the house but I have zero motivation tonight. I think I will give dog baths and call it a night. Daddy seems chipper since he passed his driving test. Meh and mama were sad because it looks like my cousin that was run over last week may lose his leg.

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We have had a good weekend so far. We are keeping the baby all weekend. Mama and daddy were doing good when I went by yesterday to pick up the baby. I took them tropical smoothie sandwiches since I knew I couldn't cook with the baby. Daddy seemed a bit sad because one of their friends died yesterday and he was only slightly older than mama. The baby slept pretty good last night. She only got up at 2:30'and 6:30 which was nice. We slept until 8:30. We got ready and headed over to mama and daddy's. Daddy scared me a little. He stumbled going back into the apartment and had a look on his face like he wasn't feeling well. I know better than to ask. He will just say he is fine. He held the baby and laughed a lot. She ate in the dining room with us. She was the hit of the retirement center. Both mama and daddy seem more upbeat. I know they have major health issues but I think a positive attitude goes a long way. I asked them to have the addresses changed on some of their bills. Theist office did not forward them until after they were due. One of them was the farm bill for fertilizer. I may be a farmer by the time all of this is said and done. Farming is much more interesting than I ever thought.

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I had a wonderful Mothers Day. The baby slept until 5 this morning which was awesome. We both fell back asleep and slept until 7. We got ready and picked mama and daddy up for church. My uncle, son, daughter in law and other grand baby came. We ate at the dining room at mama and daddy's apartment and had a great visit. Daddy is still doing very well. Other than his stumble yesterday, he has been doing great. Mama fell asleep during church and slumped over. It scared me. We noticed mama having trouble getting food into her mouth. It is very sad.

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